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writes:Hey everyone,this is strictly a sex related questionI'm having a slight problem. My boyfriend and I both are 21 and have been going out for 4 months, and we have already made love. The thing is is that I took his virginity, so he is new at everything.everything. I am the first girl he has ever done anything with. The first couple of times was good, but as times passes he orgasms too soon (less than a minute). Also, he doesn't seem to understand how to really work his hands around. What is amazing is the kissing before we undress.I am shy to show him anything since I am extremely self concious about my body, and also that makes me not enjoy going on top. I am lost at what I should do, for he doesnt seem to notice that I don't get anything from intense kissing.
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reader, xgod +, writes (11 April 2012):
 Steps you could take:1. Have him masturbate to orgasm half an hour to an hour before you guys have sex. Make sure he washes clean with soap.-- this will make him less likely to have that hair-trigger.-- this will allow him more time to work you up to pleasure before he is ready again.2. With the understanding that sex will not happen, have a "cuddle" session, which may or may not include mutual masturbation to orgasm.-- ask him to show you where he likes to be played with, what feels good to him.-- this will allow you the obvious opening of showing him (take his hand and place it exactly) where you like to be touched, caressed, kissed, and fondled.-- make sure you give in to your pleasure with sighs, moans, and obvious relaxation when you actually feel really good. Men are very objective. We prefer a woman to direct us at first and guide us, so that we do not hurt them (unless that is what they like, of course ;P )
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reader, AuntieHattie  +, writes (11 April 2012):
 Hi,
I have had a very similar problem before, when I started going out with my boyfriend, I was the first girl he had done anything with, and at first the fact I was with him was fine, and I didn't mind that he was inexperienced, however the thing to do, is keep practising, practice makes perfect, you do need to show him what you like, even if its a gentle push of his hand to a different place.
Hopefully he will react to that, and when he does something that you really like, make sure you react! So that he knows to do it again!
Maybe also you could buy condoms designed to make him last longer, which could help with the 2 minute problem!
Last but not least, take time to explore each others body's, a relationship is all about exploring, seeing what's good, and not so good, just take this as it comes, and trust me he will learn!
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