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writes:From growing up, I've always been taught to know right from wrong, to know how to handle certain situations, and how to make my own decissions and learn from my mistakes, yet there are many teenagers out there that are immature and irrisponsible. I'm not saying I'm perfect, but i'm deffinatley sensible for my age, i know i still have a lot to learn and discover about myself, but no matter what anybody says, i will always know i'm nothing like the other girls at high school.The one thing thats always been an issue for me, is the topic of underage sex, as in some circumstances i totally disagree, where as in others, i can see why people do it. It frustates me that people my age or even younger treat their virginity as something meaningless, and once its lost, then they feel they can sleep with who ever they fancy after that.I've noticed on alot of questions posted from mainly the 13-15members, that alot of girls[and sometimes even boys] are confused or worried about having sex for the first time, and i can understand why the agony aunts have mostly always commented saying that ou should wait until your sixteen, as most do seem unsure and do have doubts, you should wait until its legal and your ready, but what adults don't seem to realise now a days is, there are people out there, in strong relationships[me for one] who love each other just as much, talk about sex, feel comfortable with them, know about all the precautions[and use conteceptives] know exactly what they're doing and more importantly want to have sex and want to lose their virginity to each other. I know i maybe sending mixed signals here, but i was just wondering how many people might agree/disagree with the topic of underage sex, and what opinions you might have? thanks x
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reader, KeepSmiling +, writes (4 September 2008):
 When i we in school i hung round with the people that the rest of the school would call the popular group and for some reason it was a big thing for the lads and lasses to sleep with eachother weather it was a friday night in a bush when we were haging about the streets or if it was at a houseparty ect it was the in thing but for me it wasnt i never lost my V til i was 16 i did lose it the wrong way when i did though i lost it to a one night stand he was 22 and i had just turned 16 i felt like i was under pressure to do it i always hung about with people older then me and took drugs ect i use to get into trouble with the police and this certain boy i lost my V to was like a badboy and i use to get a buzz off it but i look back now that i am settled down dont get into trouble with the police live with my partner i look back and wish i had saved it for him but people make mistakes and i have learnt from mine i see people i use to hang about with and there still getting locked up getting time sleeping about taking drugs still and am glad am out of it. If you and your partner feel ready and you's love eachother and want to lose it together why cant you's wait til you's are 16 and if you and your partner and still together you now he is the one i use to think SEX was this big thing and i had to try it out but believe me it isnt all that and like you says once your V has gone it isnt going to come back people will respect you more if you havent slept about hun just remember that if you have respect for yourself other people will have it for you also :) but at the end of the day this is upto you all i can do is give you advice and if you want to know anything more i am here to help out i have made alot of mistakes in my younge life but i dont regred them because i can put myself in alot of peoples shoes and understand where they are coming from i am here if you want to talk KeepSmiling x
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reader, stephen1127 +, writes (1 September 2008):
yeah i know what u mean im 15 to but when i want to have sex for the frist time i want it to be spesh for me and the girl i do it with
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2008): Well you are a sensible girl so just do what you want for yourself. You have alot of questions and you desire a great relationship with someone you love but don't let virginity and sex stand in the way of that. What I mean is don't let it be the center of your attention. If you don't want to have sex then don't. If you do then do. Let's assume you make the wrong decision and I know you can not take back virginity but at least try to learn from the experience to make you a better person. As a guy, I guess my first time wasn't perfect. Seeing as the girl was my friend's ex for 2 years+ and they were only apart for 1 day but, in that sense I just saw a chance and I took it. I knew I would learn from it...maybe something would last or maybe it wouldn't. I don't regret it. Regret is bad. But in my teen years I never let it control me. Alma said to join some church group. I never did those group things but I did other stuff like Draw (:P) to enjoy other things in life. I don't really see a line in underage sex but I tried not to think about it so much.
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reader, alma  +, writes (27 August 2008):
You will never regret KEEPING your virginity, but you WILL regret giving it away. I know how exciting it is to feel like someone loves you , but ALL boys, and many men are only interested in using you as an outlet for their sexual desires. Maybe you don't have a close relationship with your father, but if you did he would concur that boys your age are NOT ready for a commitment. That means you will give away your virginity to someone who is emotionally incapable of appreciating/deserving it! Do you ever watch Maury Povich? How will you feel when months, or maybe a couple years from now you see him with someone else? I know we all need love, but that can only come from God. I suggest you look on the internet for churches in your area and join a youth group that can guide and support you in your decision to treat your sexuality as unique and special.
Please listen, these couples you know won't be together forever, and if/when they find a responsible spouse, they will wish they had never let their childhood boyfriends touch them.
P.S. Condoms (as well as other contraceptives) do not prevent herpes, HPV, and a host of other nasty, not-so-special diseases. Did you know that atleast 80% of humans will contract HPV in their lifetime? And the virus lives in your body FOREVER, and it causes cervical cancer, which can render you childless for the rest of your life????
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