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writes:I am in a horrible situation. I married my high school sweetheart. The first boy I ever kissed. No, we didn't date all the way through high school, we actually didn't really "date" until my freshman year of college. We dated for about 2 years, he panicked and broke up with me for about 2 months. I was heartbroken and even though we got back together it was never quite the same. Shortly after getting back together, he asked me to marry him. I said yes, more so to not hurt his feelings than because I wanted to. Anyway, we got married after 4 years of dating and have now been married for 6 years. Yes, we have had financial arguements and the typical stuff (he is a MAJOR momma's boy) but nothing catastrophic. I have never been content with our sex life, I ALWAYS wanted more quantity and more "risky" sex acts, but I figured that I would have to settle with what I had. My husband is my best friend. Anyway, I have meet a wonderful guy who makes me feel sexy, attractive and we have UNBELIEVABLE sex. He is so much like my husband in all other ways except sex. He and I have a connection that I cannot deny. I love both of them so much it hurts. They both know about each other and now I have to choose. Do I stay with my husband who is a great companion and my best friend and live a life a vanilla sex. Or do I leave him for this other great guy who I have an unbelievable connection to and AWESOME sex! I am killing all three of us with my indecisiveness. Any thoughts and suggestions are welcome!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2008): you are being selfish here, you really are. what would yur husband say if he knew you were ging to leave him because your sex life wasnt good enough. if you say you love him and he is your best friend, you will put him before yourself
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2008): All you are thinking about here, is what 'you' can get. Wow. In the most loving way..when one cares for someone else in the healthiest sense...a relationship isn't about getting-it's about givingness, generosity and working through the problems that do come up. And believe me, hun, all relationships hit walls, challenges and stumbling blocks. My guess is that you are woman who, feels lonely and emotionally empty unless you have great, awesome sex.. This has to do with self-love. Some women lack it so they look to other men to validate them, and being sexually available to others, is the quickest and most short-lived way to get a positive response and the attention she craves. You need to learn to be happy with who you are, first and foremost. So change your way thinking here. You and your husband both need to sit down and talk about your relationship. Focus on helping him to help you sexually..so all you can to bond and work this through together. If you still have a compulsion to cheat with this other man, you have awesome sex with , then I would have to say...you should split up so you can go out and have your fun with other men and not potentially be continually hurting this wonderful husband, who does love you. He must be hdevastated with what you are doing! Breaking up will hurt him at first, but he'll heal, recover and move on to someone else. But I will state..you don't cheat while in a marriage relationship..that's pretty crappy not to mention...self-involved-this is all about you and only you. Gosh, how sad. Good luck and take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2008): I say stay with your husband. You say he is your best friend. The two of you can play and learn the different sex acts that each of you may want to experiment with.Have you shared your wants and needs with your husband concerning sex? If not, how will he know?As for the new guy, yeah he seems tempting because he is new. My experience in life has showed me that their are some people that only want what they can not have. Meaning once you are free his interest in you may not be the same. He may move on to another challenge. Do not give up a good and solid relationship that can be shaped and formed for many years to come for what just may just be a fantasy.The choice is yours of course, but I would hate for another woman to find your good husband (that you no longer wanted) and reap the benefits should be yours.Just my two cents...Keep your head up,Qchele
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