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writes:My next door neighbor is 14 years old and he and I have been dating for about 6 months. He used to just finger me but, a month ago I lost my virginity to him. We have sex early everyday cos both our parents aren't home when we get home from school, so we have the time. I really love him. But now I'm worried I might get pregnant cos we haven't been using condoms. We didn't have any access to them. It's kinda hard to ask your parents for a rubber, and I doubt they would have said yes. I missed my period a week ago. Is it possible I'm pregnant? Can my boyfriend go to jail for having sex with me cos I'm under age even though he's under age too? I'm scared. I live in the country so any clinics or stuff that could help me deal with this sort of thing are 20+ miles away. I doubt I could convince my parents to take me out that far without telling them why. I don't want to get pregnant, or in trouble. I know I'm screwed, I just want to die! Help me!
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reader, frenchii  +, writes (28 December 2009):
what i think is ask your mum or dad ( prob mum )to take you to the docters and ask her to wait outside make her think theres somthing else wrong then ask the docter to examing you then he will be able to tell you.
hope ive helped.xx
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reader, BethBabes +, writes (11 April 2009):
 but you're 16-17 right? aren't you legally allowed to have sex now?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2008): Go to your school nurse immediately and talk to her. I'm sure she can figure out how to get you birth control. The reality is, once you start having sex, it's hard to stop, even though you are way too young to be doing this.
If you are pregnant, the nurse can refer you to abortion services. Please don't ruin your young life by having a baby at 14. Abortion is not murder; ruining a young woman (and man's) life is far worse than a simple medical procedure. Please consider strongly. I am in my 30's and have had a lot of friends who have had abortions, and they made it through the experience, got married, and had kids when they were old enough. Don't let anyone make you feel guilty for wanting to preserve your future.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2008): Oh my gosh, you are so very young, sweetie. You are still a child yourself and now you may be facing having a child of your own. And yes, if you have been having unprotected sex you can definetely get pregnant honey. Its obviously far to late to preach to you about sex, but the excuse of "not being able to get condoms" was not smart. You shouldn't have had sex, plain and simple. BUT... Darlng, as frightened as you are, you have to tell someone. You cannot continue to go through this alone alright? IF you are pregnant, its only a matter of time before it will show. Is there anyone that you can trust? I mean, its best if you tell your parents of course, but if you really can't, how about a close female relative, or as embarrassing as it may be, doesn't your school have some sort of a counselor? a nurse? Help is out there dear, but you have to reach out for it. No matter how angry/shocked/hurt your parents may be, I'm sure that they love you and they will help you. Please tell someone alright? Because this will just get worse and worse as it goes alone, not better. If you were brave enough to have sex, you have to be brave enough to face the possible consequences. You can do this! Just reach out and ask for help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2008): Hey
Although it might seem now like you just want to die and are totally screwed, I can assure you that you will work this out and things will get better.
But before that happens, I think the first thing you need to do is take responsibility of what has happened.
Of course you could be pregnant if you have been having sex without a condom, in fact is is very likely.
The very first thing you need to do is to tell someone responsible that you have been having sex and that you might be pregnant.
I know you don't want to tell your parents, but the fact is, if there is a chance you are pregnant, then they are going to find out so you might as well get it over and done with.
If you do nothing, you are only going to feel more screwed, and everything will become more and more difficult to make a decision. Right now, if you are pregnant, you have options. If you leave it too long, you won't.
Will your bf go to prison? No, I don't think he will go to prison, because you are both minors. But if I am wrong on that, I'm sure someone will correct me.
I know you must be really scared right now, but you need to work up the courage to tell a responsible person, like your mom or dad what has happened. They might freak out first of all and be angry or disappointed with you, but they will calm down and you will work things out with them - and you will be so glad your problem is finally shared with someone else.
Good luck with whatever you decide to do, and lets hope you arn't pregnant, but if you are - things will still work out for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2008): Oh for goodness sake. There are so many threads on this sort of thing - do you not receive sex education? If you have been having regular sex, and he has been ejaculating inside you, then it's almost certain you're pregnant. You need to tell your mum right now, she will be able to help you, even if she's annoyed with you.
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