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writes:I'm wondering if my fiance has gay or bi tendencies..When we have sex he wants me to perform anal sex on him with what ever is in sight. He really gets into it. This is weird because he sits up on what ever it is that is in his ass.. Like he his having sex with a man..He prefers that than having sex with me. We do have sex, but he does the same to me, when I'm doing it to him. He has asked me to buy a double headed dildo. I don't know! Help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2009): Okay.. i've heard of people being with a woman just to prove they are not gay, but they don't GET ENGAGED to prove they're not gay. Marraige is kind of a lifelong committment.. it's not a joke. So I really don't think that's the issue.
Woman like anal and it's "hot" men like anal and it's "gay." just another example of how unaccepting and critical a world we live in. .
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2009): He is gay, but is not out of the closet. He is using you just to prove that he is with a woman when in fact all he is gay.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2009): Guys do like anal penetration for the most part, but I've never heard of anyone going that extreme. If anything a finger in the but is as far as I've heard any straight guy go. I haven't heard anything that crazy even from gay couples... they do it together. Not sitting on something and having their way with it.Double sided dildo - ew! Do you want to be married to someone so perverted from the normal sense of sex?Maybe that sounds like a horrible thing to say, but you DEFINITELY need to talk to him. Sex usually increases with experiments etc as you're together longer, and if you're already at this point what's it going to be in 5-10 years? Anal sex also has it's medical issues too... maybe you can get something smaller that vibrates so it's not so insane and just use it on his taint or something.But if it's an issue of being gay, it'll be a very sensitive area, especially if he's not gay. It'll introvert him and make him embarrassed. And you don't want him to do it to himself without you there if it's something he's really into.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2009): Based on what you've written, I don't think you have any reason to believe your fiance is gay. What DOES seem clear is that his sexual tastes don't mesh very well with yours. That is the problem that you need to address.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2009): Men are allowed to like anal just as women do. There is no difference really, except that men get criticized for it and called gay. It doesn't really matter if he has "bi tendancies" anyway, because he loves you and is committed to you. If he wanted to be with a man, then he would be. I would jsut get him the two sided dildo to satisfy whatever he is looking for so that he doesn't lose interest in sex with you. He should be able to have regular sex with you often enough to satisfy you however, so you two should work out a compromise so that you are both getting what you want. ~SY.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2009): Ok....this sounds a little strange, or maybe he's just being more open than most men? But what I will say is if you are at all uncomfortable you need to let your man know. If he loved you he wouldn't want you to continue with things you weren't comfortable with. its ok to experiment and keep up a varied sex life but variance should not overtake the whole point of sex - to connect with your partner in the most intimate way for mutual pleasure. and with respect for the others feelings.If he can't respect your needs then he's really not much of a boyfriend. A weird question but does he pay you attention i.e. is he a boob man? If so i don't think you need to worry about him being gay, but my advice would be to go with your instincts and if your instincts are telling you something is wrong you need to deal with it and either fix the problem or move on.xxx
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