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writes:I am a young woman who is currently dating an old man. He is 24 yrs older than me. He is not very attractive at all, most of my associates find him kind of old and creepy. I chose to be with him because I thought I would at least find real love. He have made me cry many times, he has been unfaithful with his x in the past, he just doesn't treat me right and I don't understand why. His x just uses him, she doesn't want him, and at times when they broke up in the past, he had a hard time finding someone else because he is unattractive with no style. I treat him really good, I know I am attractive, and yet and still he won't commit to me. I just don't understand it. Now we have a child on the way. Tell me please what should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2009): If I was in a relationship where my partner saw fit to say 'you're old and ugly, and may as well commit to me' then i would not want to. (Remember that people can pick up on your opinions and motivation even if you haven't told him this).
Is this relationship working for either of you?
Were you trying for a child?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2009): Just because you may be younger and more attractive doesn't change someone's bad character traits or make them commit to you. Sounds like you thought it would be a done deal that since you were younger and better looking that he could never find better so he'd commit. Looks only get your foot in the door, personality is what makes someone commit. He doesn't sound like he's in love with you or maybe he isn't the type to make commitments. Find someone else.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2009): read you quistion and you well find the answer very clear
Darlign you started this strange relation with this man for a fake reason
you have already said the truth about him,
cheating missbehaving and ugly,
and it is very clear that he doesnt love you or care about you or any one
find a guy at your age even if he was a cheater but you still can enjoy his youth
and good looks,
and trust many young men are honest
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reader, Danii-N-Dale  +, writes (23 June 2009):
 Heyyah Hunny
You have got to decide if your happy with him and remember you have got to do whats right for the child on the way.
He has been unfaithful to you in the past and doesnt seem to pay you with the respect you deserve.
The relationship seems to be very boring and miserable but talk to him about this as he may be going through a hard time
but from my point of view he dont deserve you at all he doesnt treat you right!
And you could find alot better.
Whatever you choose make sure its the right desion for you and the baby on its way
Hope this Helps sweetie Good Luck
-Danielle xx
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reader, QuirkLady +, writes (23 June 2009):
 He treats you like crap because you let him. You seem like you're settling for this because you want "real love" but real love isn't being with someone who makes you sad, cheats on you and treats you terribly. You don't sound like you love him. And really, why would he commit to you when he can treat you like three week old leftovers and you will keep coming back for more? He has no incentive to take the next step with you.
You can do better for yourself than this miserable relationship. Just make sure you file for child support when you leave, and extract yourself from this situation. Once you're out and feeling better, learn to love yourself and real love will have a good chance to enter your life.
Good luck.
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (23 June 2009):
 Sweetie, things are not going to get any easier with a child to care for... he does not love you, he is only using you and I suspect still loves and wants his ex. Life is too short to spend it crying and maybe you should consider leaving him and moving forward with your life.
Honeygirl
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