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writes:So tomorrow I'll be meeting my boyfriends roomates for the first time. He lives with his best friend of 10 years and his fiance, so it's a little more important than just meeting his friends for the first time, more like family.I'm completely nervous.In my past relationships, I've always known my boyfriends friends prior, or at least knew their name and have seen them around. So I'm totally afraid they'll hate me.I'm 19, he's 21 and I believe his roomates are a year or two older than him. He said they promised to be nice to me, which makes me even more nervous. He says he made them promise 'cause they're honest people, so I'm worried they'll judge me wrong and hate me.So what I'm asking is: how have you handled meeting your partners friends/roommates? Are there any unspoken rules I should know of? Or anything specific I should/shouldn't do? I know how to be friendly, I'm just worried 'cause he says they're both big smart asses, and I'm pretty damn gullible. Those personalities don't usually mix well. I can take teasing fine, but I don't want to look like an idiot for kindly laughing at every smart ass joke I fall for.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionJust got back - it was a blast. We all just hung out and watched TV and played games. His best friend came with him to pick me up at my house, so that eased up a lot of tension for me in the beginning.
Thanks a lot for all the advice! I acted polite enough and thankfully didn't make too much of an idiot out of myself. Hopefully I left a good impression.
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reader, Starlights  +, writes (23 June 2009):
 oh i forgot to add, in my last post; dont get anxious and worry about meeting his roommates! just remember they are normal humans like you and me!! nothing to stress about! follow what i wrote earlier... ha!
good luck
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reader, Starlights +, writes (23 June 2009):
Hi there!
firstly just try and be a polite version of yourself.
act friendly when you meet them, smile, strike up conversation anyone on the street can talk about eg
(talk shopping with her and credit crunch with him) !
i remember when i met my husbands mates for the 1st time i was so nervous, there was 5 guys, and 1 little old me... ha!
but i said hi to all of them, and started discussing cheryl cole off the x factor (the show we was watching at the time), it worked a treat!
start of being initially friendly, making conversation then im sure they will warm to you.
p.s
wear something nice too, dress to impress!
good luck!
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reader, QuirkLady +, writes (23 June 2009):
 Don't worry too much. Your boyfriend likes you for the person you are and I'm sure his friends will be fine. Just relax and be yourself, nice and respectful, and everything will turn out OK.
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reader, Boonridge McPhalify +, writes (23 June 2009):
 relax and go there with the attitude that you dont care what people think of you but that you are going to be ploite, relax and laugh at what you want to.
dont worry, i'm sure it will be fine. your just attaching unnecessary importance to what is simply an everyday event (people meeting new people).
you sound nice and fun
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries +, writes (23 June 2009):
 just be yourself hun!
if they don't like you that's there problem!
i know what you mean i am like you i am very gullible and i'm crap at geography so when people ask me stuff i just look thick lol but i don't care because i think meh it's me take it or leave it. i am sure you will be fine and i am sure they will love you just as much as your boyfriend does :)
he probably said they will be nice because they'll probably be a tease that's all nothing scary,
just always smile and be yourself all you can do no more and no less :)
Hope this helps hun. let me know how it goes! message me or something. x x x x x
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