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writes: Hi there!Hope you can help me..as I don’t know what to do! and I’m going crazy! Basically, I’m in a 2 years relationship with my bf; we live together, although we kinda drifted apart. I love and care for him, but still cant say that he's THE ONE!Well, I work in a retail company.. and we just had our new deputy manager 3 months ago, the first time I saw him.. I knew instantly that I fancy him..just something about him..makes me go..*shivers*We're getting on really well, and everyday as I get to work with him, the feelings I have just keeps getting stronger! I do mildly flirt with him..I always try to go for my break when I know he's having his break too. and if there are things/stuff at work I didn’t know, I would always call for him and ask for his help. We both have each others’ numbers.. although I have tried texting him once.. but he didnt reply.. A month ago I was away on holiday.. man I missed him so badly, I even bought him a lighter from Greece!When I’m with my bf..the feeling is just so flat...but when I’m with him, I’m so alive and happy like I’ve never felt like this before!....I think I have made it obvious to him that I fancy him, but I cant really tell if he feels the same, as he treats everyone the same...He knows I’m in a relationship.. maybe that’s the reason why? plssss help me...what shall I do? why am I feeling this way? I think about him, every second, of the day, and he’s the last thing on my mind before I go to sleep! I know this is craziness! Help me...how can I tell if he feels the same way? pls pls help me!Thanks for your time reading it;)More power and hope u can help me!bluerthanblue:)
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reader, pops +, writes (16 October 2005):
YOu may not be able to at work. It is very dangerous for a boss to date or have any sexual contact with an employee. If the relationship goes South, he could find himself being accused of sexual harrassment, or favortism by other employees who think the only reason you were promoted, or got a raise is because your are screwing the boss ! Most companies, in the US, have rules telling their supervisors and managers not to get involved with employees, how to avoid sexual harrassment charges, discriminations charges, etc. and those rules tell these key employees that they will be fired if they violate the rules. So, even if he does like you, and would like to date you, one of you may have to find another job before that can happen. As for your current livi-in bf, talk to him. If you both agree the relationship has lost something, figure out what, and why, and when, and talk about fixing it, or at least how to, whether you both decide the work will be worth the effort. Otherwise, you may just find yourself repeating the same mistake with the next man in your life. Some relationship drift apart. Friends stop being friends, and lovers stop being lovers. It happens. If you have a chance to find out why it has happened to you, by all means, learn from the event. It will help you both get over each other, and your failed dreams, and get on with your lives.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2005): Your own relationship is going through a dull patch therefore you are seeking attention from other places, try to put more effort into the relationship you are in at the moment and put this attraction out of your head, you work together and he hasnt shown any signs of feeling the same way dont make your work life hard by saying something that could effect it.
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