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*TheAlmightyDuckx
writes:Hello! I hope everyone is doing well and keeping this site going and I basically have an a bit of an update and a question for all of you wonderful aunts and uncles. Recently I came out of my second un-successful relationship due to my ex being a serial cheat, all in all taking away the break ups we lasted for about 5 months. Throughout them five months, I went through a lot, my aunt passed away due to cancer, my family fell apart, so did my friendship group and I was diagnosed with bipolar, if that was not enough through out all of that my ex was cheating on me, and my other ex was threatening me daily. So everything has been difficult to say the least, however I have started to notice a pattern. It may be due to my bipolar but I have a mortal fear of being on my own, so much so it got to the point where I felt that everyday I HAD to surround myself with people. Because I found that with my 2 previous relationships, I went from one straight to the other, simply because I was so afraid of being on my own and being forgotten, this basically meant I went straight to the first boy who gave me any slightest bit of attention, not taking into account anything else about them. I gave them everything they wanted very quickly, sex, money, a place to sleep, attention, gifts, food everything and I thought by doing that it would show I loved them. But now I look back I realize that doing that just showed them they could get what they wanted with no fight, and due to that they also believed they could do what they wanted without me battering an eye lid and both of them certainly did take me for a run. I have now realized that this is not the way forward, jumping into a relationships or simply just having sex with someone so I feel not alone gets me no where and justs makes people want to use me well no more I say! I have decided that from now on I do not wish to have sex with anyone until I have been in a relationship with someone for a good few months, and that also means why I am single I don't wish to sleep with anyone either. My standards are being set way up now and I am not settling for any less, however, I want to know what to look for in a guy? I want to know what makes someone a good boyfriend? I want to know what to avoid? I also want to know how to act to make boys think that I am not just going to give them what they want? I also want to change myself slightly and wish to lose weight and improve my image, so losing weight tips would be good, I also want to know is there anything I can change about my attitude to make me attract the RIGHT kind of guys! Thanks for reading.
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