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writes:My problem requires some backstory, so here we go:About a year ago, I told a boy (let's call him Aaron), that I liked him and asked him what he thought about it. Aaron said he was sorry, that he didn't like me in that way and that he had a lot on his plate. From there on out, he made a point of avoiding me and we never talked again. I was disappointed, but got over it rather quickly. I'm not the kind of girl to latch onto anything or anyone, really.Over the summer, I hooked up with another boy, 'Travis', and proceeded to date him into the school year. For stupid reasons, we broke up in October, were obstinately mean to one another, and then he asked me out again. The second round lasted mere weeks because I realized how much of an immature jerk he was (even if he was nice to me, it bothered me the way he treated other people). So, we split right before January. We pretty much ignore one another for the next month or so, but then out of nowhere he starts coming onto me and requesting that I snog with him. I decline on a regular basis.This stream of antics continues off and on until spring break, when for some reason Aaron starts talking to me out of the blue. I am wary (because he and Travis are best friends at this point), but merrily converse with him via phone and internet. He is blatantly flirting with me despite the fact he has a freshman girlfriend, Sylvia. I make a joke about that being the case and he replies with something along the lines of "she's a stupid little girl, and I was foolish to believe she wasn't as ignorant and immature as her age usually boasts" and "I want someone closer to my age (he is a senior, I am a junior) and taller (I am fairly tall for a girl, and Sylvia is incredibly short)".It is obvious what he means, but I still remain cautious. I end up going over to Aaron's house a couple times, where, after playing some video games, we end up wrestling on his bed and spooning one another during a movie. I try to ignore the overwhelming attraction I feel towards him during these times. Eventually he breaks up with Sylvia, regularly flirts with me for awhile, and Travis even tells me that he is planning on asking me out very soon. Aaron doesn't, pretty much ignores me at a school activity, flirts with his ex, and when I point-blank him about what his intentions are, he says 'we're really good friends'. I am more annoyed than hurt.Anyway, things go from him 'being scared of starting something he can't handle' to 'being fickle and sorry'. He pretty much ignores me again, and Travis starts up again, but this time it's more than sexual favors, it's "relighting the fire". While I cannot deny that we have dynamic chemistry, I'm definitely not interested. Despite my making my sentiments very clear, he keeps on until this very day.I have no specific question. I just have no idea of what to think of these two boys or what to do. I'm fed up and irritated with both of them.
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reader, Gillian444 +, writes (3 June 2008):
Gillian444 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks guys, I just needed to clear my head and hear some logical advice. As Aaron acts like I don't exist, he is easily forgettable. Travis though... well, he has a lot of growing up to do. I shan't succumb though. :)
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reader, lexilou  +, writes (1 June 2008):
 If Travis is in love with you and you dont feel the same just keep politely but firmly letting him know as he will only get hurt in the long run. Dont meet up with him on a one to and one and get his hopes up but keep a distance if you can.
The other one sounds like a player and will keep you dangling as long as you will allow him to, he has a lot of growing up to do yet and sees all this as a game and is playing with your emotions a bit.
Forget the pair of them and wait for someone to come along who will appreciate you as much as you appreciate them. If they play silly games from the start they are unlikely to change so in future move on if they mess you around from the beginning x
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reader, bobbay123 +, writes (1 June 2008):
Stay away from them?
They sound like annoying wastes of time.
It sounds like they're playing with your head, and you really dont wanna let them get into your head.
Stay sane, move on, try and get a new boyfriend and enjoy your time with him. Maybe even show him off.
Aaron and Travis are all in the past and they cant change that anymore. They had their chance for forgiveness and they ruined it.
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