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writes:My relationship has been rocky lately, so I met this guy whoms currently in a relationship, we talk on the phone alot, and we have met out alot, we even text each other through out the day, I love the attention that he shows me because my man use to do those things, but he don't now, according to him, his lady don't know what she wants, and thats why he cheats, we often talk about future plans, and did I mention the sex is great, it only happened once, but the truth is he;s a great guy and all, but I will never leave my man for him ever, So what do I do? Do I say let me go or just change my number and move on?
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (7 December 2009):
 Why are you trying to fix your relationship by talking with another guy? That's only going to confuse the issue for you. And what do you mean, "do I say let me go" or "just change my number"? Is this other guy stalking you or have you trapped in some way? Just tell him you are ending the chitchat/affair/flirtation/whatever it is and that you wish him well, goodbye.
Then work on your relationship, or give your man the chance to move on and find someone who isn't so troubled and confused. Perhaps couples counseling would help? Have you both been to your doctors recently for a physical, have you been evaluated for depression, do you have unresolved mental health issues that need dealing with first?
So I'd say, move on from the flirtation/affair guy, and then choose to work on the longterm relationship with all your effort or let him go.
Good luck.
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