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She's too close to her ex for comfort! I really like her though, what should I do?

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Question - (7 December 2009) 1 Answers - (Newest, 7 December 2009)
A male United States age 30-35, anonymous writes:

My girlfriend and I have been together for about three months now but she has a little baggage. She has a son with her ex-boyfriend of five years and she and her ex are always hanging out. They're pretty much best friends even though they broke up over a year ago. She claims they only spend time with each other because of their child but I think she isn't over him; she talks about him enough to where I assume this. He hasn't dated a single time since they broke up and I know he still loves her; he's actually told me this. But I feel like I'm already in too deep and I kind of... don't want to lose her.

I can't automatically make this situation go away considering there's a kid involved. And I've seen the way her ex is toward their son and I don't think even I could be that great of a father. They also live together and that makes this really awkward for me. I honestly can't trust her around him and I know that sounds like I should break up with her now and get it over with but I genuinely do like her. What should I do with this situation?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2009):

Well, that is a tough one. They still live together but are broken up and have a child together, am I understanding that correctly?

I know you like her but there is something wrong with this picture. I thought everything would be cool till I got to the living together part.

These two are simply nuts, they can't possibly be wanting to move on with their lives or expect people they may want to date to accept this arrangement, it just isn't done.

I think it is great that they get along for the sake of the child, but if mommy and daddy are not together anymore and living in a loveless household, then that is not good for the kid or any one else for that matter, not to mention confusing.

I think I would dip my toe in a different relationship pool if I were you and gracefully bow out of this deal.

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