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writes:I met back up with this guy that I dated about ten yrs ago. We told and thought that since we are older now we know what we want in a relationship. It started off great he would call and txt all day long. The one night to spent the night nothing happen we cuddle all night a perfect night. The next morning we said that we could see a future with one another. But then the next day the next stopped and we didnt talk as much. But he would call me when he gets off work. But he also said that he was dating someone who was much young and he called it off with her. I told him that he needs to make sure that he wants this with me because I do not have time for games. Is it me because I know he was dating someone and they still have something are is it me tripping off of nothing because I to have someone else that I'm willing to let go for him should I let him go or the other guy. I need help I love the man that I have been I know that he is not for me and the other guy is want I really want in a man please help me with this I just dont know what to do... Reply to this Question
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reader, Wyinter +, writes (19 March 2010):
Wyinter is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthe thing about it is that i do love him i want him in my life be things do change and he is not the same man anymore. for an update i have ended it with him and now i currently dating the other guy and we are very happen i know he is the one for me and he very well be the man that i marry.....
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reader, rcn +, writes (15 March 2010):
 You say this man that you are with "is not for" you? And you are with him why? Why would you put someone else through the pain of finding out the he's not for you later than being honest with him earlier where you can both find someone who may be for you, completely, and for you to be with?
I also see where he may easily end it with this other girl for you, and misrepresenting yourselves with your partners that both of you may find in the other a dependency or need to just be with someone, although they are not the one for you. If so, you need to work on getting out of that view, because relationship dependency leads to not having satisfying relationships.
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reader, Kenj  +, writes (15 March 2010):
 It sounds like your mind is already made up. You want to go off with the other guy but your not sure if he wants you. As for if this other guy will work out, only time will tell on that. Sometimes we need to take chances in life to better ourselves.
But you should do the guy you are with now a favour even if you dont go off with the other guy, let him go and find someone who will love and appreciate him for who he is, your holding him back.
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