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anonymous
writes:please help me this is completely ruining any chance of me keeping my friends and having a boyfriend.there's 2 girls in my grade who are telling people that i am conceited and that i think im the queen bee. a lot of people now look at me funny and don't speak to me the way they used to. one of the biggest reasons why they think im conceited is that on my birthday my best friend made-out with my crush and now they're going out. i thought that because it was my birthday that this could affect me! it hurts still to see them together and to talk to them. but now whenever i do im afraid they're saying something and whenever i see them together they're laughing at me, the 2 girls. my one friend who heard about this but does not believe them said i shouldn't talk to them because they will probably lie. i asked her this only when i found out they hated me, before they told everyone. What should I do?
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reader, Unhappy1971 +, writes (4 March 2010):
Honey, you are better then anyone talking trash about you to your friends. just like i have told my daugthers, if "your friends" are doing the talking or believing what is being said, then they really are not your friends. It is all talk, and in the long run not you will be better off without then as friends. Make new friends, get involved in new activites. Whatever it takes to keep your chin up. Do not worry about what the other insecure kids are saying about you. The more they see it bothers you, the more enjoyment they get from it. Walk with your chin high and ignore the crap out of them. that will take all the fun away from them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2010): Well, to solve the problem with the two girls you just have to pretend they don't exist. I know it sounds hard, I've had to do it myself soooo many times, and at the end of the day they're probably just jealous of you.
You could try trying out new clubs or something to make friends who don't know about this whole situation you're in, I'm sure this will make you feel better. Martial arts can help if you feel defenseless, I had a go a few years ago when this older boy was bullying me - it really helps to make you feel more confident (just the thought that you'd be able to floor those girls easily will make you feel more powerful)
Anyhow, whatever you choose to do, good luck! Just remember you're not the only person who's gone through this. :)
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reader, Kenj  +, writes (4 March 2010):
 Sorry to hear that and I can’t give you information on what to do, but sometimes other people can be cruel especially at school.
Just keep believing in yourself and know you’re a better person than they are.
This will sort it's self out in time and theres plenty of time to find yourself a good boyfriend and friends who appreciate you for who you are.
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