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writes:My ex boyfriend "Joe" broke up with me cause he felt I had too much stress in my life already. I felt it coming but it didn't hurt as bad cause we admitted that we still loved each other and would be friends. My previous ex "matt" jumped at my being single and without realizing it really, we started dating again. Anyway, I almost had a nervous breakdown today, my car got smashed and I was losing it. I called Matt but he didn't seem to be so concerned...Joe drove to see me at work and make sure I was okay. He hugged me and we kissed before finally, we both pulled back. He said he was sorry he disrespected me but I said no, I kissed him back...it's not his fault. I'm just so confused. I have feelings for both but somehow I feel that Joe is so much of what I want in a man. I feel guilty for not feeling terrible about that kiss. How can I really decide? I was with Matt five years and I've barely known Joe for five months.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2015): Ummm,I normally recommend people to stay friends with exes, but,dear,oh,dear, you're making a mess out of it!Plus, once you break up with an ex you should really have a clean slate... that includes no sex, no kisses, no intimate conversations.IN your case, I'd say dump both men and never look back. Maybe being friends with exes is just not for you?YOu seem to be attention-seeking and whoever satisfies that attention in the moment that's whom you turn to.It's wrong to use people in this way and I can see continuing to jump between the two and turning into someone you won't like.In summary, break up, cut contact and re-view why you need someone to make you feel better? I'm not meaning this in any condescending way, it's just seems to me that you rely on men's opinion and support (emotional and otherwise) to get you through things. YOu're a big girl now, learn to be "one whole" not "one half"
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