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writes: I have 2 boyfriends. I have been with Dave for 2 1/2 years, and about a year ago i met a guy called Liam and we started going out. I am at university so the deception was quite easy. But neither bf knows about the other, and i am to graduate soon, and Dave wants to move down to london to live with me. But Liam wants to be with me as well. I love them both so much, but i dont know what to do. I am getting so upset and down about it. please help.
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reader, Phoebe Halliwell  +, writes (29 May 2006):
 Dear Reader,
Having two on the go is a tricky situation. You simply had to ask yourself some questions.
1) - if they were both drowning, who would you save first?
2) has one of them ever cheated?
3) which one did you feel happiest with?
4) which one treated you best? (this does NOT mean which one gave you the most presents or roses)
I have been in this situation, i am right now actually and I am following what my heart is telling me, and it's working. I feel on top of the world and you should to. Lsiten to your heart, which name is it calling?
When you have chosen, and you have to let the other one go, let them down gently but tell them the truth. I don't mean to seem harsh but have you ever thought this situation might be punishment for two timing. (I know I said I was in the same situation but I'm not actually seeing anyone. Yours is a tad different, come to think of it)
Blessed Be,
Phoebe
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reader, bonym +, writes (29 May 2006):
 My dear, of course you know that this is wrong, otherwise you would not have asked the question. If you have ever read any of my replies you willl know that I wil tell it like it is, but at the same time I am not here to judge or condemn you, its not my place to do so. Here is what I think you should do, you need to break it off with both of them and be honest and start to move on. If you were with Dave and you were happy why did you start seeing Liam, and if you were with Dave and were unhappy, why didnt you finish it with Dave and start dating Liam? Its cruel and unfair to both men to date them at the same time, I mean while you are with Dave, you are perhaps thinking of Liam and vice versa. How can that be healthy? You dont know what or who you want, so finish it with both of them and stop playing games, its wrong my friend and you know it. You are allowing these men to fall for you and once someone has fallen, it can start getting tougher and tougher to finish with them. Stop being deceitful to these men and start being honest with yourself. Why did you cheat on Dave? You uneed to find the answers within yourself. You may want to rate my answer as poor if you like but I am being very honest with you, I dont want to tell you that it can be ok because it wont be, in the long run you are gonna really hurt on of these two men if not both and you dont want that to happen, do you? Take care and I hope you can work things out xXx
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2006): Maybe it would be a good idea to break up with both of them.
You could then take some time out to work out why you don't have a problem deceiving people you allegidly "love so much" and why you have an apparent inability to put other peoples feelings before your own selfish needs?
I mean, imagine how they would feel if they found out, isn't that enough to stop you treating them like that?
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