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writes: I met this man in September last year and we went out for 6 weeks. He phoned and text every day but we did not see each other every day. Because I had just come out of a 25 year marriage his constant texts and calls frightened me and so I foolishly told him that I loved him...that sure scared him off and so after 2 weeks apart he decided to call the whole thing off. I told him of course I did not love him it was a knee jerk reaction as to his attention. So in November last year I contacted him again and he spent another couple of weeks deciding and finally said he had met someone else. Trouble is I think of him all the time am completely besotted with him ..feel so hurt so down, its all as if it had happened yesterday...can't move on think I am in love with him...What can I do???
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2006): I'll make it simple, because you may be only seeing what you want to see. Simply put-if he was yours, he would be with you. He has another love interest so face this loss and in time you will heal and recover. If he's told you he has moved on and met someone else...you have to reach deep in yourself , find your strength and accept this. You can't do anything about this, Lizzy and I am sorry for your pain. As long as you stand there in the wings wishing for him to love you, while he has another woman, it is precious time wasted not looking after YOU. And remember, you are unique, you are special..look after yourself. I think you know it's time to detach. And there is no easy way. Don’t allow this to 'take you down'. The more you take the time to heal and the more you take the time to know yourself, the better. I know you don't want to give up on this man, but just take the much needed time to make sure you are making a wise decision. Listen to your heart, but take time for rational assessment and begin thinking smart.. Work through this and choose what seems like the better, healthier course for you. Eventually following the path of greater awareness will get you where you want to go and give you the happiness you deserve.
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reader, Phoebe Halliwell  +, writes (29 May 2006):
 Dear lizzy,
First things first, Congrats, you found that special someone. Next, do you possibly think he just said that he was seeing someone else just so scare You off? Maybe he did like you but wants to start something with someone else?
Moving on takes time and it's a long and hurtfull process, but it does pay off. soon you'll be dancing around in those Clubs without a single worry in the world! Maybe get some of your friends around, it helps to have people supporting you.
Good Luck, all the best and Blessed Be,
Phoebe
xxx
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reader, lizzy +, writes (29 May 2006):
lizzy is verified as being by the original poster of the questionShould I contact him and tell him how I feel......?What have I got to loose?It was wrong time wrong place all too soon...but know he was the one......Life is shit sometimes!!!
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