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writes: I'm in love with two girls, completely crazy about both.They both live so far away. I could commit to one, but that would mean losing the other. It's just too hard to choose. I don't think I can, to be honest. They are both amazingly hot. Both of their personalities are just amazing. Both are convinced that they are in love with me. I know they wouldn't be happy about there being another girl in my life. Should I just leave them alone, because I can't commit to just one?Any help or opinions would really help...thanx Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2005): I've been there. Scratch that, I AM there. That's why I read the post in the first place... anyway, you're right, it's not easy. And there is no easy way out. You can't give either one a fair shot because you'll be thinking of the other the entire time. My advice - take time off from both for a while. See which one you miss the most.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2005): i made a previous question about the same matter but i didnt put much detail in at all sorry...p /
I'm in love with two girls, completely crazy about both.p /
I could commit to one, but that would mean losing the other. It's just too hard to choose. I don't think I can, to be honest. p /
So Im stuck where ever this is I am NOT sleeping with either because that wudn't be right or fair on either on them and I know that, and I dont see either that much but im always in contact(either by phone or emails).p /
They are both amazingly good looking. Both of their personalities are just amazing and i know both of them very well. BUT I cant really give more information about the girls because they might read this!!...p /
Both are convinced that they are in love with me... AND this having 2 lasses really doesnt boost my ego as other ppl suggested...sorry it was my fault cos i didnt say enough about it 2 suggest otherwise...p /
nehow this has actually destroyed me because i really am stumped at what im going to do...p /
Any opinions on what i should do would really help me (either so that i can clarify the details or what ever!)...really need help on what to do...thanx alot for any help
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2005): are u seeking advice or bragging?
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reader, bee +, writes (12 September 2005):
well i have some sympathy that two great girls have come along at the same time, howver, I think part opf your confusion is down to the fact that they both live far away. you don't give much detail, but i suspect that you don;t know either individual well enough to see the whole perseon. Perhaps you are thrilled becasue you have two long-distance relatio ships and that means you have two people you can al;ways experience the 'first thrill' stage of the relatio ship with - they never get too close and can be mostly made up of fantasy in your head when you're away from them.
Also, i imagine it's a massive boost to the ego and you can't help being sucked in my this image of yourself as 'loved by more than one gorgeous apparently 'ideal' chick.
you don't say how much time you're spending with either of them but seeing them both has to stop - it's not cool at all.
I think the best thing to do is go on a date with each of them - doing something personal to you that you like - an outdoor activity or something, not just dinner and a movie etc., this will give you a new perspective. Then set yourself a deadline of one week to decide. You will know in your heart which one is right if indeed you are ready to commit.
If you don't know which one you want, then I think you are probably seduced by the idea of just dating and sleeeping with these girls, not committing to the real person that each of them is, in which case you should tell both of them the truth that you're not ready for a committment and you need to be alone for a bit.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 September 2005): well we dont know the girls so you arent asking us to choose which one, are you? so does that mean you want our permission to date them both? Cos i dont think you will get much of that kind of advice!
It might kind of come down to making a list about each one and choosing who really is the one you want to be with. And if it doesnt work out- then if you wre really meant to be with the other chick then itll work out with her.
but stop being so greedy right now. you dont deserve either girl if you cant be honest.
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