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writes: Hey everyone! It's been months since I last sought the help of my favorite group of agony aunts. But here I am, imploring you for aid once more (clearly, I'm a mess :]) This is going to sound odd. Be prepared. I'm good friends with a fellow freshman by the name of "Alex". We've been friends since 6th grade. He has a younger sister in 8th grade called "Nina". I believe I may have fallen for her. Much to my unpleasant surprize, not only is she a year younger than me (no biggie, but hugely unacceptable by the unspoken laws of highschool social networking), but she is a good friend's younger sister! Alex is really cool, but even if he wasn't upset (should he be spoken to about it [which I fully plan on doing should our relationship come to pass]), I would feel awkward knowing who she was related to. Maybe awkward enough to affect the folw of our conversations and relationship as a whole. Also, there are 8 siblings in total, ranging from ages 7 - 23. I am close to all of them, even their recently widowed mother. It kind of adds to the awkwardness. I thought you guys should know that for a better understanding of my typically sticky situation. P.S. While I appreciate the optimism of "don't let anything keep your love apart", I find it rather cliché and largely unhelpful. Please, I'm an actual teenager, not a Disney princess. Let's be realistic. Like always, all love, thank you all! Reply to this Question
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reader, jrns96 +, writes (14 April 2011):
jrns96 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Right, but I've dated every other kind of girl I can with the express desire of avoiding our budding relationship.
Somehow, our relationship grew anyway. What I failed to mention previously was that our relationship is fast turning intimate despite my struggle to avoid it.
Also, maybe she s not the love of my life, but that isn't to say I CAN'T love just because of my age. Besides, the relationships I have now will affect by behavior and experience in later relationships.
So if you're answer is still "leave it alone" how do I defuse the bomb threatening to go off between us? Or if I should date her, how do I do it tactfully, without awkwardness?
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reader, Capri2  +, writes (13 April 2011):
There is plenty of girls out there, and it's very rare you would find the love of your life at 15 so date another girl. Don't mess around with her because it could really hurt your friendship. Think what happens after you break up with her.
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