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writes: I was in a relationship with a girl for almost a year and a half, we got engaged and then she found out about me lying about things in our past, she then moved back home, We are not together and i will be away from her in all contact for at the least 5 months, i email her, but i want to stop all contact with her so when i return she sees me as a new person and falls in love with me again, it is difficult to do this because she tells me she wants to talk to me so she can trust me, but in the mean time i feel like she isnt forgetting the old person i was. What should i do?
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reader, yourwifey  +, writes (16 June 2008):
not much you can do except he best that you can its really on her to move it forward or not just stick in there oneday shell trust you again if you prove to her
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2008): heya!
well...it all depends on what it is that you have done...
if youve lied about another girl whilst being in a relationship with her then she is most likley to be deeply hurt because she agreed to your proposal in marriage-to re build trust with that issue is vital and a long process on both sides. but it depends on what you lied about...
if she wants to start seeing you in person and speaking to you its obviously a good intention. when you get engaged to someone its because you love them very much-so deep down she must have feelings for you because it is impossible to stop loving someone after 5 months.
first off, dont try and change your image too much. u can make an effort when you see her tho-like wear her fave shirt/aftershave whatever she liked.buy her some flowers. dont be too pushy on what you done. greet and say gudbye with a hug. ask her about how she is, what she has been up too. tell her youve missed her company-make her feel like she is the only most important person in your life. maybe you should write her a letter to read when she gets a home-a deep and meaningful one-not being too pushy-the letter could focus on you as a couple-the good times-the times u miss-and u learning from your mistakes. tell her that u want to regain the trust-and if that means going thru hell and back for her-then you will because she is worth it. tell her about ur dreams together for the future.
before you leave and as you hug her-hold her tight and whisper i love u in her ears. tell her she can have as much time as she needs and that when ever she needs u-she can call u.
maybe you can ask her out on a date at the end of the letter-fresh beginings.
if all else fails-then let this be a lesson for you.lying is wrong.
with love n god bless friend x
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