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writes:I am 18 very young and I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years now. He started living with me at my dad's house before we were even together because he had no where to go and I cared for him. So our relationship started off really fast at first I was head over heels for him but now a lot of things he does irritates me. He is very in love with me and pretty sure he is about to propose to me. He scares me because he says he would kill himself if we weren't together that he has not point to live. And he is telling the truth because I have tryed to break up with him before and he tried but i stayed with him so he wouldn't. Every time I try to break up with him I hurt him and I care so much about him that when he hurts I hurt so its immposible for me to do. But I don't want to live the rest of my life like this. What do I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 May 2009): Emotional blackmail!!
If you stay with him just to stop him "hurting" himself, you will resent and hate him for making you be with him when you dont want to.
Just dump him and let him get on with it.
If he does kill himself, dont feel guilty, it is HIS problem, not yours. If he "tries" to kill himself, dont go running to him either.
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reader, Fatherly Advice +, writes (10 May 2009):
 This is called emotional blackmail. It is a shifty sort of abuse. He is using these threats to control you. As soon as he finds that he can't control you, he will lose interest in you.
Now, having said that, suicide threats should never be treated lightly. You should report them every time. You are not qualified to treat his depression. You can help him get proper treatment.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 May 2009): You can't get stuck in a marraige and in a relationship for the rest of your life because this guy is weak.. and an idiot.
Break up with him. just do it and as soon as he threatens suicide, call the emergency people and they'll come and get him and make sure he's safe. If he's bluffing then it'll teach him a lesson. If he's not, then he'll genuinly be getting helped.
There is nothign else you can do. You CANT ruin the rest of your life for him. You have to do what's best for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 May 2009): all i can say is if he really needs you so much he would kill himself if you werent togethor...he needs help! im not trying to be mean but suicide is not a funny thing.. if he really means it you need to take him to a phsyciatrist and you and the doctor can work this out with him .....make sure you have the phsyc. explain to him that you love him but like a brother and youll alaways be there for him but you dont want to spend the rest of your life with him.....hope this helps!! :) good luck ....think about this really hard!!...
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