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anonymous
writes:I need some advice here... I've been with my lady nearly 3 years. We've been engaged for 7 months. We both work in the night club industry and she stopped wearing her ring about a month ago. Ladies!! do you think it is ok to take your ring off for the hustle? LOL... What is the right thing to do? How should I deal with this? I'm not angry, just hurt...
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2009): I only take it off for the job interviews and he knows that. It's for a better chance about my job (as a school teacher), because if they know, that I will get married they may realise that I will probably only stay for a year, but they want to have someone who stays longer...
Ask her for the reason. It may ist to small and hurts or to big and she doesn't want to lose it? It could also be an other reason.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 May 2009): Sorry.. .
where i said "gently and non accusingly of course" that was meant to be the last line of the whole answer, but it somehow got moved up into the prior paragraph. So please just move that line down.
Ask her gently and non accusingly.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 May 2009): well i would personally not take it off for any reason because i only like attention from the hubby. But she may be taking it off not for the oppurtunity to be with someone else, but because she may be being treated differently since she has started weaering it. A lot of women like to have male attention to keep them feeling beautiful and well liked and feeling good about themselves. Ever since i got engaged, i've not been hit on anymore but i used to be a ton. I'm ok with this but she just might not be. Not because she doesn't want people to know she has you, but because she's not getting complimented anymore. .. gently and non accusingly of course.
Anyway.. i could be wrong. This is just a suggestion. if she's doing it to get a date or another man, then that is absolutely wrong. You should figure out which it is by simply asking.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 May 2009): Even if she forgets her ring and you remind her, there is nothing stopping her taking the ring off once she is out.
My ex-wife started doing the same, because she was having an affair!
I would be very wary.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 May 2009): i think what you should do is before she goes out to work say wait sweetie you forgot your ring ...see what she says if she says oh ya then your good but if she says i dont need it just innocently ask why. its so much easier to ask her then to spend time worrying about why she isnt wearing it!! hope this helps!! :)
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