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writes:I've been seeing this girl for only a little over two weeks now, but we instantly hit it off. Maybe we moved really fast, but I've pretty much been over at her house non stop since we met. I'm pretty crazy about her. My question is this.I've been through a lot in my past where earning my trust now is hard to come by. I usually just assume everyone is a liar unless they can prove otherwise. And even then, its still hard for me to trust. I know that's such a negative outlook, but I've had many experiences in my life where I've regretted trusting and I've been constantly lied to. And I'm scared that's gonna push her away. Is there anything I can do to not always assume the worst and have faith in who I'm with?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (13 November 2011):
 You will end up driving her away before things can even begin. We all have had at least one person in our lives who have lied and deceived us. It can be hard to get over it put we need to accept our pasts and move on from it. I know you have been hurt and your trust has been broken but don't allow it to affect future relationships. Yes it can be hard to let down your guard with someone in case you get hurt again. But you need to take the risk in life. Stop worrying about getting hurt. Because you will become your own worst enemy and you will end up being lonely. You just need to let go and allow yourself to live your life.
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reader, kate28 +, writes (13 November 2011):
Well since you have only known her for two weeks I think its okay to be a bit mis-trusting (within reason) right now. You're still figuring out how she is and if she is the type of person who can be trusted, and that knowledge can only come with time. Hopefully as you see her in more and more situations you will learn that she is trustworthy and come to trust her.
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