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writes:Two years ago, i was in a serious relationship. At that point, a friend of mine had just gone through a break up and he was quite heart broken. He'd call me up and i guess i was there for him, so he started trying to get a bit close...maybe too close...my boyfriend objected to it and i kind of stopped talking to him...I used to have a crush on this guy as a kid though...when i was 13 - he was a year older than me and i used to look up to him.Now , recently we connected over chat and sorted things out,i apologised to him. He was in town and he wanted us to meet...but i had just broken up with someone and didn't want to rush into anything so soon. So we met...but just for ten minutes...he asked me to accompany him with his friends but i didn't. The point is when i saw him i got really nervous and totally messed up the entire conversation. And now i regret it. I wish i could tell him that i do like him, i've always had a bit of a soft corner for him. So he has backed off...i don't blame him :( . I tried calling him but he didn't pick up...nor did he message me...just dropped in a message on Facebook.Now i don't know how to make amends. I really do like him...but i am scared to tell him this...is there anything else i can do to show that i care...he's in the army...and posted somewhere else so communication is a bit of a problem.Please help me
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reader, Darrell Goodliffe  +, writes (24 March 2013):
 I'd go all in. You have absolutely nothing to lose now. If he doesnt feel the same way, then he doesn't but that has to be better than saying nothing and not knowing if he does or not?Sit down, write your feelings down and send them to him. You will worry, be apprehensive but then as time passes it will either give you the space to move on or else it will the start of something wonderful between you and him. If you are looking for encouragement I would say his stand-offishness would indicate he feels something too and is backing off to try and protect himself after your previous actions hurt him. Good luck :).
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