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writes: I have been best friends with this girl for about 6 years, but I feel as if her abilities to look at our friendship is biased. She does not seem to see things from my point of view. I'm 17 and her boyfriend hates me, he even sends me rude text messages! She thinks I'm selfish and self-centered, whereas she is always ditching me on Friday nights to go party with other girls and doesn't invite me, or at after school activities. It's hard to confront her about his because she just blames it all back unto me! Please help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2008): Start making some different friends, and stop making plans with this immature person. She can't be relied on, and is making you unhappy. That's a good enough reason to pull away from her. You don't have to have a big blowout discussion with her, just quietly make moves to leave her circle.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2008): She is officially not your best friend. It seems her boyfriend might have rubbed off on her. But don't tell her that, she'll be even less likely to speak to you then. Best friends do not go out on fridays and not tell you where they're going. Best friends do not insult you unless you've had an argument.
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reader, Country Woman  +, writes (15 June 2008):
 Good you are stronger than you think so glad some words have helped and you can always let us know how you are getting on.
No one has to tolerate bad behaviour so good on you.
Keep smiling you are young and full of life no point in being miserable eh!!! lol
Take care.
BFN
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks so much. I really appreciate the feedback, and this has given me the confidence to do something about this. thanks sooo much. xxooxxoo
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reader, Country Woman +, writes (15 June 2008):
Why are you doing this to yourself?
I think you need to draw back completely from this SO CALLED best friend of yours. She is fine with her bf hating you and sending you rude text messages, she must know that it is happening.
Why does she think you are rude and self centered, what has made her to come to these conclusions, is it the bf who is feeding her all the lies just to get you out of the picture, or is it one particular occasion that something happened for her to make this observation.
I personally think the bf is probably jealous of your friendship with his gf and that is why he slags you off.
Don't tolerate it anymore and say no get on with it, when she splits with the bf maybe she may just see sense, otherwise you have not lost a best friend but somebody who uses and abuses those closest to her.
A true friend could NEVER do that so just tell her once and for all that you don't deserve the abuse you have been suffering and the fact that she has blown you out so many times on a Friday night to go out with other friends is both mean and selfish and totally self-centred so tell her that she needs to look at herself in the mirror rather than transferring those feelings onto you - her best friend.
If at the end of the day she says fine and ends the friendship what have you lost, someone who is always blaming you for everything that goes wrong in her life and I have known many people like that who cannot ever admit when it is them that is the person who is to blame but instead shifts it to someone else.
Stand proud and tall and find yourself some more decent friends who respect and want to spend time with you as they just enjoy your company.
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BFN
Country Woman
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