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writes:Mum and dad are arguing. No one agrees who is right. Dad is violent (only shouting) and mum just cries. Only way mum can get her way is by refusing to cook for dad when he insults her, but he cant take his wife NOT being his servant. Theres 2 of us, sister is 13. He just complains about her not doing as he says and she complains about his sudden loss of anger when simple things go wrong such as too much salt in food. She said she cant take this kind of abuse because the angry face just scares her.Im so stressed, start of summer holidays for me and i had to sleep in my mums room coz she wanted my dad to sleep in my room. How do i solve it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2011): Your dad is treating your mother wrong, and tell him like the reader said before, to man the hell up. Women are the reason he's here, so he better damn appreciate them and learn to talk, not to yell.
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reader, RAINORFIRE  +, writes (20 June 2011):
 A wife is not a servant shes a partner... husbands and wives should serve each other..souds like there headed for divorce theres probably nothing you can do
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2011): Firstly, don't place any blame or responsibility on your shoulders. It is hard for children to fix their parent's problems.
Now, advice....
Yell at your dad. Tell him to act like a man, and not a child.
I am not even joking. He might tell you to mind your own business, or that you don't know what is going on between him and your mother, but your dad's behavior is unacceptable. Throwing temper tantrums is what children do. Tell him straight up that he is acting like a child and that he needs to stop it.
Whatever their problem is, there's no need to yell at each other and withhold food or what not. Work it out like real adults.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2011): Unfortunately, you can't.
The best thing for you to do to maybe help alleviate some stress of the situation is to be the best kid you can be -- helping out both parents when you can, etc.
You can also try talking to each parent separately, saying something like, "I know your relationship isn't my business, but I feel scared/hurt/angry/upset when you two fight, and it really bothers me." Sometimes airing your feelings and letting them know that their arguments are affecting more than just them is a good wake-up call.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2011): leave this to your parents - it's between them.
However, you could sit them both down, with your sister and show them how it's making you two feel...maybe then they'll realise they need to sort things out. Just remember, they love you both
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