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writes:I am an otherwise healthy male who has no trouble getting or maintaining erections. However, my problem is that it takes me a long time to orgasm and when I finally do it doesn't feel quite as great as it used to and the quantity of semen produced is much lower than it used to be. Sometimes it even feels like a chore to masturbate or have sex and (this is new for me) I might even quit before I reach orgasm if it is taking too long. My partner enjoys this as if anything I used to orgasm too quickly. It's nice to no longer be a Minute Man. However, I am concerned in that whereas I used to orgasm very quickly now it takes me so long. My erections are still easily obtained and firm. I am not on any medications. I am almost 40 so it this a normal effect of aging? I would say I first noticed this about a year ago, maybe two.
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reader, LustyLisa +, writes (10 August 2011):
It's always good to get a complete physical when the penis starts to show evidence of symptoms that are new and currently unexplainable. Anything as mentioned by previous posters can lead to problems with erections and ejaculation and only a Dr can rule out or treat conditions according to his/her findings.
Another option you can consider is limiting your exposure to sexual stimuli to once a week or once every couple of weeks and really commit to extending the amount and intensity of teasing and foreplay and see if there is any differance in your ability to ejaculate.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (10 August 2011):
 While I agree that a visit to your doctor is in order, to ensure no physical or medical impediments, it is probably time for you to come to grips with your suspected issue: getting older. Although I'm now 63, I began to notice definite changes beginning to take place in my 40s, and similar to what you mentioned.
Although sex is certainly fun and feels great, its primary biological purpose is procreation. As the need for making babies decreases along with your mate's typical ability to do so (depending on her age), the man's performance is preprogrammed to diminish.
The good news is that performance can continue, but you may have to work a bit harder to make it happen. Now in my 60s, my primary problem is lack of an ongoing mate, but ability is available with occasional girlfriends. Conclusion: You're aging and will need to adjust to changes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2011): My ex ended up with a "blockage" in his scrotum that lead to him taking longer to orgasm and not having as much semen ejaculated. I would go to the doctor...that's all he had to do to fix the "glitch".
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reader, RedAthena +, writes (9 August 2011):
 Have you ever thought of talking to a Urologist?
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reader, happy140 +, writes (9 August 2011):
 I have been in the same boat, still am in fact. Around 40-45 things got to be more difficult. My doctor stated it was normal for me. Erections are not a problem but it seems I need more DIRECT STIMULATION to get to orgasm. Even masturbating has become a chore as I need more stimulation, not physical but visual. I need them both together and I need it from a woman. I used to use porn ONLY as a stress reliever but I have no stress now so I do not need it for that. My wife understands that more direct and sometimes a little more aggressive stimulation is needed. I think, as we grow older it just becomes more difficult for us as it does for our woman. Do not take it personal, your penis still loves the attention but needs more than it is used to. Sex here is still great it just takes longer and to me is no longer about the orgasm. I enjoy the intimatecy now, just the intimatecy and no orgasm is still great. Do not worry about the orgasm and concentrate on the feelings not requiring and end.
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