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writes:My best friend was dating this jerk and I told her she should dump him the first day they started dating. Two days later he dumped her. He said, "I know this will not work out. I'm still in love with... (who is another best friend who has a boyfriend)." Obviously this made her feel bad because they are best friends and he said yes to her so yeah. So to help her I set her up on this online dating website for teens. She met this really sweet guy and they went out a few times. Eventually her mom found out and told me to delete her profile and that she was grounded and that she was deactivating her phone. Now I feel guilty and idk what to do. What should I do texting is the only way we are able to communicate outside of school.
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reader, Ivyblue  +, writes (19 January 2016):
 Sweetie, online dating for teens probably is what it is ,however it is the type of online environment that sexual predators frequent so I can understand her mums concern/anger. Even adults get duped on these sites. Not much you can really do but sit back and let your friend and her mum rebuilt some trust. and for your friend to get her privileges back. In the meantime you could give your apologies to her mum by letting her know that it wasn't the smartest thing to do and that this kind of thing wont happen again. Your young and have to learnt by your mistakes and hopefully now you have.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (18 January 2016):
 I can see that you where trying to be a good friend. However I think her mum done this because she is probably worried about who she is talking to online. The internet is a dangerous place for teenagers, especially dating websites as you never know who you are talking to. They may tell you lies and tell you they are someone who they are not. So am sure her mum was just worried and that is why she has deactivated her phone.
I can understand that this is upsetting for you as now you cannot contact her. Is there someway that you can talk to her mum and apologize and just tell her you where trying to help your friend? Maybe if your friend says to her mum that the internet can be deactivated from her phone and just used to text her friends, then her mum might reconsider. If she doesn't well then the best thing to do is maybe write each other letters and give them to each other at school during the day.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2016): You appreciate her parents are punishing her and you can't contact her outside of school. Her parents will already be annoyed at you fo showing her the dating site so if you try and contact her while she is grounded they could tell her to stop being your friend.Dating site for teens?! Wth?! Just slow it down and enjoy time with your friends. Honestly you will have a TON of time when you're older to worry about dating - and then you will wish you just had it easy and made the most of a time where you weren't worried!You've got to understand why your friend is being punished - because dating online is potentially dangerous for adults...as a teenager you are at even more risk of meetint a psycho pervert! Don't put yourself or your friends in thay position. If I were you, I would apologise to your friends mum and dad - and tell them you're sorry and now you realise it was a terrible idea and hope they can forgive you. You are going to meet guys who act like they're interested and suddenly don't want to date anymore. They might say they still love their ex or they're not ready fo commitment blah blah...boys will do that. They will do your head in. But there are decent guys out there and instead of rushing to be their gf, the best thing you and your friends can do is get to know them as friends first. Dont feel pressured to have a bf and your friends should be the same - and seriously delete any online dating because it's not cool :-(
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