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writes:Its been 3 months since my last relationship ended, that itself lasted for about 7-8 months and has been my longest to date.Since then i have been talking online a lot too a girl who i've known in real life for over a year. We've been talking a lot online and getting quite close. I can just tell that she's the kind of girl who i would get on so well with. The only problem is, is that this whole 'talking online' has gone on for a good 2 months now, and although i do see her around college from time to time and smile and say "hey". I've/ she's never really had the time or the opportunity to go over or to hang out properly for any decent amount of time. I've tried on 6 different occasions over the past month to meet up with her so we can be on our own and just chill one on one, e.g. Chilling out at lunch, waiting with her for her bus after college, or even a trip to the cinema. She says yes and seems all excited and up for meeting up, but then at the last moment every time shes always seemed to have an escape plan, which she (to effect) has used. She's practically told me via text that she likes me, that she's attracted to me and asked if i liked her, to which i replied yes. But its all been either tastefully subtle or really over the top in a jokey way. Here is an example of the specific moment when i realised that she did probably did like me, only problem is, i technically said it as a joke, but it did have meaning behind because i do really like her: HER(joking-in mid convo):"hahaha! oh i see! LOOKING AT OTHER WOMEN are we!" ME:"paha ;)Dont worry, theres only one woman for me dont worry 3" To which she replied on several occasions "but yeah, so whos this woman you speak of? and if you say your dog, we're over ahahaha! :P" ME: "Ohhh as if you didnt know 3 ;)". HER: "who? mee?! :o" ME: "You seem surprised?" HER: "Hahaha Ohh babyyy" Now, After this she took ages to reply and texted something back saying. HER: " Ahh dearrr, hahaha ;) i like taking things the wrong way, baha!!" ME: "Taking things in the wrong way, as in good or bad?" HER:"Good of course, well it depends on whether you want it to be good or bad?" ME: "Definitely good." To avoid any awkward silences and stuff, i said to her (for the sixth time) if she wanted to meet up and go see a film. To which she said yes. If she had enough money left over from Christmas shopping, she didn't want me to pay for her ect...Anyway, i know for a fact that she is an incredibly shy girl, and when i do ever go up to her in college, she always goes all quiet and mixes up her words. Which is really qute. The problem is that it doesn't feel right to me to tell her i like her without even having spent some time with her? Not even just as friends?This girl is beautiful. I mean she is stunning. She has a perfect figure, a really pretty face, lovely eyes and a gorgeous smile. Literally everything. However, me on the other hand. Not so much... Haha, i'll be honest, i wouldnt know what she would see in me but i don't want that to get the better of me and make me walk away from her if this continues. I've been trying hard, but i'd rather just know that she is a friend, rather than hear all of these flirty, hinty, sweet things from her over a text or online messages. Its only going to lead me on or get my hopes up.I'm just wondering what i should do. Do i risk scaring her off by asking her to meet up again and again. Do i just make an extra effort to see her in person more, even if she does turn to jelly a little. Do i just tell her i like her over facebook chat or text or something? Do i just wait for her to get back to me? Its hard to balance showing her that i like her without being to keen, and giving her enough space and looking as if i'm not interested.Girls of DC what say you?Guys of DC what say you?Thank you for taking the time to read this and for any opinions that you share. You'd be helping me greatly to just have another persons view on it! 3 :)
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reader, Moraghlouise +, writes (15 December 2010):
Ask her out already! Let her know you are asking her out on a date where you expect to pay - because you want to spend some time with her.
From this she will understand that you like her - and want to know her better. She will become less shy, the more time she can spend with you in person. it is easy to talk on-line as you can be and act anyway you want to.
If she has an excuse as to why she can't meet...drop it for a while and let her come to you. You can only do so much, and playing games isn't fun when you really like someone. Put yourself out there and then realize you are worth while (girls put less weight on looks, and more weight on how nice the guy is and how well he treats us) and that you have great things to offer a girl. If she isn't truely interested, unfortunately there isn't much you can do - but respect yourself, and find someone else who will appreciate what a good guy you are!
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