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How do I deal with unrequited love?

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Question - (15 December 2010) 2 Answers - (Newest, 15 December 2010)
A female United States age 36-40, anonymous writes:

I am a young woman who has fallen for an older man.

I know it can never really work, but I find myself upset and dejected by the unfair way things have turned out. The reasons it wouldn't work are not within our age difference, but our differences in emotional maturity. He hides from emotions and pushes me away when things are too close...He has does this repeatedly, only to show back up again, apologetic.

I don't know for sure anymore what his feeling are for me...I just know I have grown to care for all his flaws and silliness, as well as the things that I find positive about him. He has been in my life on and off for four years.

I know I can never tell him how I feel, I don't know that he'd understand it's not a young girl's infatuation, it's honest love and I expect nothing from him.

I'm just heartbroken that things can't be how I'd wish for them to be...I am moving away and on with my life, and am trying to leave this and him behind. My heart just aches because I wish things were different.

What is the best way to deal with this?

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A male reader, welsh United States +, writes (15 December 2010):

Move away and keep all contact off. Its difficult to do it but that is the only way out. Over a period of time, you will find someone who loves you as much as you do.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2010):

End the friendship.

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