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writes:Hi everybody, Im currently travelling around the world. So before I came away I was on a website for travellers and met lots of friends who ive met up with along the way and turned into great friends. There was a guy I was chatting to alot for 6 months before we left home, through facebook email and txt! We talked about how he had a girlfriend and I had a boyfriend and just general chat about what we were gonna do about our relationships while were away. We were just friends! Until last week when I met him for the first time and we just instantly hit it off, we are both travelling and planning on staying in australia a year. Since I met him last week weve been txtin all day everyday and Ive met up with him alot. We went out the other night and we ended up kissing. I really like him, but I'm trying to figure out should I even get my hopes up since we are travelling and is it gonna go anywhere? He broke up with his GF before he left but shes flying out to him at christmas, and my BF is coming out for a week in niovember, (we agreed to seperate while im away!)Any advice would be great, realisticly is it gonna get anywhere, ive never been with anyone where i couldnt see it lasting or going somewhere!
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reader, GrimmReality  +, writes (2 September 2009):
 What is all this nonsense about Separating while you are away?Either this guy is your BF or he isn't. Apparently he isn't. And you have found someone else anyway after chatting online. So don't call this poor guy back home your BF. You are just wanting it both ways...you have some nerve.But yeah you better tell him. Because if you are so worried about it you weren't really separated. Icelordess is right that coming to see you and then dropping the bomb on this poor guy is a pretty rotten thing to do.I am afraid you should have broken EVERYTHING off before you even left. These type of things do not work in the long run. And all you will get out of this is another guy whom will hate your guts that you have buffaloed because you didn't have the guts to break up with him in the first place.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 September 2009): If your boyfriend is spending a lot of money on a flight just to see you then maybe it is only fair to tell him the truth - that you have met someone and not sure how its gonna go? He then has the option to meet up with you and 'see where you're at' or stay at home. It depends if he was going out to Oz anyway? Either way I think its best to be up front - if you split up anyway before you left then you are not beholden to him - but he may still have his hopes up so it would be kinda cruel to give him the brush off after a 24 hour flight.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 September 2009): your seperated, hes seperated, whats the problem,
Go for it ye like each other. I dont think you should say you have a boyfriend I think you have an ex that you care about a lot. Life is for living.
Id let it develop or fizzle as it may and then if your feelings grow you should tell your ex, no point him coming over thinking he is gonna be with you if he is not.
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