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*kullsAndRoses
writes:Ok so long story short i come from a muslim family and my parents are way too overprotective, im 20 years old and im not allowed to go out with my friends or anything, everyday i go to college and then come straight back home.I love my parents and wouldnt want to do anything behind their backs but im sick and tired of being trapped at home all the time I don't even know my way round my own town i would literally get lost in fact i have on occasions, it's really embarrassing for me when i have to decline invites to go out. I've tried talking to my parents but nothing i say gets through to them. I've been depressed for the past 4 years and im thinking being trapped at home all the time is one of the reasons i have been, i really don't have many friends i have considered moving away but i worry that i won't be able to survive (i am currently studying and not working). So does anyone have any advice for me as i've said before talking to my parents is out of the question since they never listen to a word i say. Do i run away or stay and if i do run away how do i do it(i know its a silly question but i really don't know where to begin) Thanks in advance
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reader, ShiShisAdvice  +, writes (4 February 2011):
 Take it from a Muslim wife, w/o child, Life for me is very lonely. I am sure it's worse for you because you should be out with friends. They are just trying to protect you. They don't want anything to happen to you. Just remember, you are not alone. Can you find other Muslimahs to chat with? Maybe they will let you make friends with someone from the Masjid?
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reader, XxMishxX +, writes (3 February 2011):
ok like the other poster said you are 20yrs old so your an adult, your parents cant keep you prisoner.
Is there any way you can go to your local housing office and ask their advice? lunch breaks at college?
Start looking for a job, even a part time one, if you cant find one dont worry, Im not sure but im sure if you are a student you can get benefits to help pay for accomadation etc, my friend lives on her own and she goes to college and doesnt work.
also talk to your college, has your college got a councellor? ask to speak to one, they can help you with your options and by law they cant tell your parents, the sessions will be during lesson time to. at my old college they had a department for things like housing, money issues etc, has yours? go there and ask advice if they have.
You need to stand on your own two feet, i realise your muslim and you have certain believes but they seriously can not stop you going out, if you told the police they would be prosicuted.
defo look for a flat and a job though, and remember if they disown you/dont talk to you its their fault not yours
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2011): You are an adult. Time to act like one.
First step, get employment. Second step is to realise that you don't have to inform your parents of what you are doing, where you a going, or whose with you.
Third step is to realise that by law they cannot do any of the things they currently are. You are legally able to date, be friends with whoever you want, and go where ever you please. If they are not going to give you your human freedom and rights, its only fair that you take them by force.
They will be angry, but it serves them right.
Flynn 24
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