A
female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:I'm pregnant and me and my boyfriend were planning on moving in together. I decided to stay home because my mom will be helping with baby-sitting and it would be easier to live at home.My boyfriend was going to move into these really nice apartments that were also really cheap. Now all of a sudden he wants to live in some run-down trailer park to save 100 bucks on rent every month. Wtf? The place is in a bad part of town, infested with roaches, and honestly I don't feel comfortable over there at all. Its okay during the day but it gets scary at night.He's probably going to be living alone but the trailer is huge with three big bedrooms that he doesn't even need. But his whole family has lived in or currently lives in trailer parks so they're all encouraging the idea! It's dirty and the last time I spent the night there we heard gunshots in the middle of the night. I don't understand why he wont just go to those nice apartments we found together? He says he wants to save money for the baby but I think he's just being cheap. He makes decent money and can afford a nicer place.He knows I don't like the trailer park because we've been there before. Yet he is excited about it and thinks its a great idea. He's already planning where he'd put furniture and cutting on cable and internet. He's even looking for a roommate. Am I being a huge snob for not wanting this for him? I know once he moves in he's gonna want me and the baby to come spend the nights with him, but I just don't feel safe sleeping there or bringing my new baby over there. Should I just tell him how I feel?
View related questions:
cheap, money, roommate Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (27 December 2011):
 yes tell him how you feel.
tell him to find a nicer trailer park.. there are some very nice ones in parts of the country so being a "snob" is not the issue... the govenor of Alabama lived in a triple wide for a year when the mansion was being redone...
if you don't feel clean or safe there that's NOT about being a snob.
my fiance just moved from a lovely neighborhood of brick apartments but it was NOT safe and I would NOT walk to my car in the dark alone....
A
reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2011): You should absolutely tell him how you feel! This is an important issue, and you have every right to express your views on it. Personally, I wouldn't compromise over the matter for anything. I sure wouldn't feel safe or comfortable spending the night in such a place, let alone allowing my newborn to do so. No way. Both of you deserve decent accommodation, and he should try to provide that (if it's affordable, of course... I'm not suggesting your boyfriend live beyond his means).You aren't a snob - and neither am I, even though the tone of my answer might suggest exactly that haha! No, really, you need to do what's best for all concerned, particularly right after the baby's birth. Infants are very sensitive to their environment, and I wouldn't be happy to expose mine to one like that so early in his or her life. Be honest. Your boyfriend surely can't hold that against you :) Good luck and take care x
...............................
A
female
reader, Starlights  +, writes (27 December 2011):
 Yes of course tell him your feelings, don't bottle these things up... ultimately its your baby's future and if he loves you both he will do his best to provide that support and comfort, as you say he can surely afford it.
Goodluck!
...............................
|
