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writes: No communication My husband of 24 years and I have had yet another argument.This time much worse. I know that I have said some terrible things in the heat of anger. He has said to me that no one has ever said such mean things to him as I have. The reason that I say these hurtful and nasty things is because when I ask to talk to him, he refuses or just gives me the answer "I don't know". I will then ask him when will he know a day, a week, a year? What? Still "I don't know". We are now sleeping in seperate rooms, don't look at each other and no communication at all unless necesary.He works days and I work a split shift,so I don't get home till 10 or so. I am so frustrated with not being able to communicate. Last year we went to marriage counseling and the counselor had said that communication is vital and I brought that up to him, still "I don't know".All he has said is that he's going to continue doing what he has always done,go to work and play music.He's in 2 bands, and usually plays out 2 to 3 weekends a month. Should I just keep quite or try to get him to talk again and hopefully he will say something. It's been a month now. I feel that if I try to get him to talk it will be considered to be nagging at him, which he has said before in the past. When I have tried to get him to talk to me. I am so confused my head is spinning,Thanks for any input...........Callie Reply to this Question
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Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A reader, fran, writes (7 February 2005): communication is important. you should try and sit down with him. tell him how you're feeling and what you need then once you've told him that, then the ball is in his court.as you don't get much time together maybe when you come home you could have a bath together or take up some form of activity together where you start to bond with each other. try massaging and pampering each other you might find that spark still there. try revisiting places you've been before with each other.
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