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writes: Hi Cupid,I need advice on meeting a guy. I am 33, female, and have had two longterm relationships (3 years each), but for the past 6 years have been single (apart from some casual dating but noone I was seriously interested in).When I was in Uni, I had no problem meeting boys (partly because I studied engineering, where the male:female ratio was huge!), but now I find I dont meet that many guys.Normally I dont have trouble attracting people - most people think I'm years younger than I am, I'm size 10, blonde, outgoing, lots of friends, but the problem is that I very rarely meet someone I'm interested in getting to know. I'm independent, so I'd rather be alone, than be with someone with whom I know I have no future. I dont particularly like drinking in pubs (I've been doing that for 15 years now, so the attraction has worn off). I love scuba diving and skiing, but when I do those activities, everyone I go with is in a couple. My friends are all (except one) married or engaged or have kids. They know I'd like to meet someone, but dont know anyone I'd like, to set me up with.Sometimes people say I may scare off guys - because I'm intelligent, well-educated, attractive, well-travelled, sporty, speak 3 languages - but I dont think this is the case, since I keep very quiet about accomplishments, so as not to appear boastful. The crux of the problem if that I just dont meet anyone I find attractive or interesting, and I feel like at this stage they've all married other girls. I do all the things I should - join clubs, be openminded, give people a chance, do new things each week, but still, no-one. (By the way, I;ve no baggage from my past relationships - one finished with me, and I finshed with the other - but they are so long ago now, I never think of those guys (who, incidently are now both married! )Please let me know any advice you can give!Lonely-Appolonia
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Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A reader, Beck, writes (8 February 2005): I suggest if meeting people in person doesn't work for you then try online dating services. You can be matched with the man of your dreams and you could be the girl of his dreams. Alot of people do it and I think you should give it a go.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2005): First of all, I must commend you on your accomplishments and you well rounded life! I think you should boast of these, because any man worth being with is not scared of an intelligent woman. As to meeting guys, I can't tell you anything you don't already know. Dating can be a pain, its just how it goes sometimes. I'd suggest going out with a few of the guys you don't see any future with, just to have a little fun. Also, maybe doing some things with out married or coupled friends, might make it easier to meet other singles.
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