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writes:Okay. So I have a big decision on my hands and I need some serious help. Preferably from someone older than I am.When I was in the 7th grade, I began dating a boy (Boy #1) who was in 8th grade. We stayed together until the very end of my freshman year in high school (9th grade.) A year after we broke up, we talked again. I originally broke up with him because I found out he had cheated on me his freshman year (my 8th grade year.) We talked for awhile but decided not to date again because my mom hates him. A few weeks later, my best friend (Boy #2) asked me out. I accepted. Boy #2 and I have now been dating a year. He's a good guy when we're together, but he's kind of immature and doesn't really know how to show affection. It makes me insecure. Over this whole 5-year period, Boy #1 has remained interested in me. He has not dated or really even talked to anyone else in a romantic way. Recently we started talking again. I am still with Boy #2. I have feelings for both of them.What should I do?
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (18 October 2010):
 Looks like you're leaning towards Boy 1..but he cheated on you who's to say he won't do it again? I'm sure your mother hates him for a good reason, because he's no good for you. Boy 2, yeah he's immature and doesn't get the hint when to put his arm around you or hold your hand. Not all guys are that affectionate, to rectify this situation you may have to grab his hand, or go in for a kiss. It's not always up to the guys to make a move. His immaturity is due to the fact that girls mature faster than boys. They don't start to act their age till maybe 21-22?
Let's look at this clearly:
Boy1
Pros: still talks to you, single
Cons: cheated, and your mother hates him
Boy2
Pros: good guy, best friend
Cons: immature and lacks affection
Boy 2 is a lot better guy than Boy 1...I'm afraid if you went back to Boy 1 he'll cheat on you again. I say stay with Boy 2 but from your post it sounds like you're not that into the relationship. So my final answer is neither. You gave them both a chance and so wipe off your slate, start fresh with a new guy.
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