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writes:My friend and I were sleeping together. I was very much in love with him and he was with me, so he said, but it all went horribly wrong and we didn't talk for 7/8 months. To get over him I moved 300 miles away but it's not helped, it just means I won't ever run the risk of running into him. Well he emailed me out of the blue and told me he was going to come and see me and one of his other friends who lives here. I was like er.... as I said we just stopped speaking. I spoke to my other friend and he said he was definitely coming, now - the question is do I want to see him given how much he hurt me and the fact we didn't speak for 8 months... Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 October 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks guys he turns up today but ive not responded to any of his texts i want some closure an apology maybe. I love him with everything i am but i know i can't have what i want and i know he's not going to want to talk about it so i think im just going to stay out of his way
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2009): Well, only you can find the answer to that. It sounds like you haven't really got over what happened though. You said you moved 300 miles away, and it didn't help. That's because healing comes from within. There isn't really anything we can do that will instantly make everything okay again. Even moving 300 miles away. Have you given yourself time to be upset about him, to come to terms with what happened?
As for whether you want to see him or not, do you think it would be helpful for you at all? Or would it cause you more pain? Would you be hoping for another chance at things? For answers? For closure? What does this mean to you? I think it is a bit unfair of him to e-mail you out of the blue and announce that he will come and see you. Do you want to see him? Do you have a good feeling about this? Or a bad one? If it's a bad feeling...then maybe you should trust your instincts and tell him to leave you be.
Whatever you decide, take care of yourself. I don't know the details of what happened between you and this guy, but it obviously hurt you a lot. So do whatever you need to do to help yourself. Even if it means asking him to leave you alone. Or if it means seeing him, do it on your terms. But listen to your instincts, they will protect you through this. xx
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