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writes: I love two guys. I know it makes me sound bad but here is how my relationships went in the past. I dated one guy and he was a ass so i left him after 2 months. I didn't really find anyone i loved but that was it until my current boyfriend(Aziz) asked me out. It was very sweet and heart touching. I love him very much but he lives across the ocean. I Skype with him everyday and i have been dating him for a long time. I have met him in person. I have this other guy. he is my best friend and he too lives in another country but this time its closer(Canada) but that does not matter. I have also met him in person. I love my boyfriend but lately i have been questioning myself and when i talk to the guy in Canada(Jake) I just....you know that feeling. I get scared of the feeling and i quickly call my boyfriend. I love them both. i don't know what to do...who to choose. I thought about it and my relationship with my current boyfriend is great but it seems like everything is the same. My relationship with Jake who is a friend is fun. he makes me laugh and smile. I love talking to both of them but my heart is torn between two and i feel like i can never give it to either one fully. What do i do? I've weighed the pros cons, where i see my future and stuff like that and Jake fits my original choice of life that i wanted(I was stuck between Nurse or teaching English as a foreign language) So Jake fits the future of English teacher but Aziz fits the future for nurse. Plus i changed my religion because of Aziz but i feel like i don't want that religion but he wants me to. What do i do? please help me. I have met both men in person and i am still lost.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2015): you get rid of them both .... if you love two people .. you truly don't love any of them
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2015): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionno i see what you are saying. Thank you Midnight Shadow :)
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reader, Midnight Shadow  +, writes (9 February 2015):
 That's why is put "real" because an LDR is real, but not "as real" as in person.
Neither of the people are moving in with you, are they? If so, other arrangements should be made because having a relationship in person shouldn't be rushed and moving in would only add to the teething challenges.
I stand by what I said though; you can't lead them on any more (even unintentionally). You need to decide and have to be single for a few months to decide which one you want to be with, if you can't choose when you're in a relationship.
I know it isn't what you want to hear, but you came to the site asking for help and this is what you've got :/
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2015): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionMy boyfriend is moving here in December. He has worked hard and is coming here to me. But my friend is also coming here because of work and me. He knows that there is a line and i am dating aziz and we are only friends. I get what you are saying but even if it is a LDR its a real relationship. Even though it may seem like it is not it truly is but my heart is being torn.
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reader, Midnight Shadow +, writes (8 February 2015):
Honestly, I think you should be single for several months and eventually find someone you love who you can have a "real" relationship with in person - where you can BE loved and SHOWN love, and well as show it back.
LDRs only work if there's an option for relocating at some point in the near future - at your young age, it wouldn't be wise, just because you have so much life to live where you want to be, not where you feel like you need to be for someone else.
Spend a while being single, try not to think of them, and if, after 6 months, you still feel like you love ONE of them, try dating them - if you still can't decide, don't date either and move on. You don't HAVE to be with either of them.
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