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Torn between my ex and new dude

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Question - (29 October 2010) 3 Answers - (Newest, 30 October 2010)
A female United Kingdom age 36-40, anonymous writes:

I was with my boyfriend for four yrs and we have a 4 yr old son. unfortunately he moved abroad (not by choice)and we were separated for two yrs. In that two yrs, he found a new girlfriend abroad and messed everything up. My heart was broken and I kept asking him to come back but he ignored me.

I move on after sometime and met a very nice man who i've been seeing for 6 months. My ex came back in the country and says he's sorry and want's me back. I was very angry with him at first but soon started to warm up to him. He is very good with our son and has been asking me back for 10 months now. I still have feelings for him but don't want to look a fool and get hurt all over. I don't want to hurt my new man's feelings as well but I have stronger feelings for my ex... pliz help

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A female reader, PatientlyWaiting1 United States +, writes (30 October 2010):

Give it some time. You are not married yet, if he loves you he should not make any demands on you and he should wait patientely until you decide. But do me a favor and do not make him wait long. A few months tops. You cant make a decision in a few days or weeks. Think carefully.

You two have a son and you love him so consider it. I hope he has grown. If he loves you he will humble himself and wait a while. Tell him you are unsure about the situation and you need time but you are not ruling him out.

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A male reader, JayJay101 United States +, writes (29 October 2010):

honestly you have to do what your heart says i know he hurt you a lot but even though he hurt you i believe you and your ex have a lot of history together to try it for at least one last time if for some reason it does not work or he hurts you then i believe its time to move on. but were this turns tricky is your new man i believe you should come clean with what is going on and quit playing this guy like a toy you should not play with peoples feelings this way i hope this helps a lot good luck with everything.

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A female reader, tennisstar88 United States +, writes (29 October 2010):

tennisstar88 agony auntThen go back with your ex since your feelings are stronger. Do note that all this yo-yoing around your ex and introducing new guys in your son's life isn't healthy. If his father can man up and start providing a healthy stable life then take him back. However, if he can't offer you and your son that then stay with the new guy.

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