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writes:I foreplay with my girlfriend for about 10 minutes but when I get to start intercourse I ejaculate at the time I grab my penis in my hand for inserting it into her vagina, or sometimes i ejaculate by just inserting the (head) of my penis into her vagina.And I dont get back erection soon, I need to wait a long time to get back an erection and again it continues the same way. I have never lasted more than 2 or 3 seconds, I feel myself very very very ashamed even to look at my girlfriend's face!I am 21 years old.I have read articles about Premature Ejaculation, but none of them seemed to help me, those articles talk about men who ejaculate in 2 mins, but I can not even last 2 seconds, I have never thrusted her, because I cant, I ejaculate before having the time to thrust.I have decided to give up sex permanently if I dont recieve any help from here.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2011): I used to have the same problem. But I have improved a lot. Don't think about doing sex. Don't think about lasting long. make the forplay longer and wait untill she get very wet and beg you. Use your finger and tounge in the for play. While doing this don't think about insertion or worry about premature ejaculation. Even don't think u r making sex. Make your mind busy thinking about other stuffs while forplaying but stay connected with her. Oserve her feelings and how she is progressing. Try to enter stay a while inside her do'nt thrust just keep it inside and finger her, pull out for more forplay. Do this again and again and when she is about to come enter and thrust, she will come out while u r inside even if u alrady ejaculate. Every time tell your mind it is nnot time to ejaculate.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2010): When I first started dating my boyfriend he would premature ejaculate all the time. Sometimes he wouldn't make it in. Sometimes just the tip would touch and it was over. Sometimes he would thrust twice and it was over. This lasted for a while. Probably for the first two months that we had started having sex. Never lasted more than a second.He, on the other hand, did not feel embarrassed and it was never an issue with me. I personally knew that it happens to a lot of guys and it often happens at the very beginning of any relationship and most of the time they grow out of it. I did not feel it was necessary to make any sort of deal about it or bring it up and to this day it has never been brought up. I personally felt kind of flattered, made me feel sexy, like he really was attracted to me. For all you know this is how your girlfriend feels too. It has been five months and he no longer premature ejaculates. We have a great sex life, he can last really long now. As time went on he progressively lasted longer and longer. You have nothing to feel ashamed of. It happens. Stop feeling bad about it. You are going to last longer with time, this is inevitable so just go with the flow. I personally liked that about my boyfriend that he wasn't ashamed. If your girlfriend is not worrying about it or saying anything about it then don't worry about it. As time goes by you will last longer, I promise. In the meantime stop putting so much pressure on yourself and know that she really likes you and just relax. Nobody's perfect and more guy's have this "problem" than they are willing to let on, that you are even aware of. Putting pressure on yourself and worrying about it is not going to change anything it is just going to stress you out. Just enjoy it and let things improve with time. They will.
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