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writes:I am 19 years old and engaged. I have also been in love with a different man for almost 6 years. Recently, the man that i've been in love with for 6 years confessed how he wants to be with me and has had mutual feelings for the same amount of time. I can't help but have strong feelings for him since i feel like he and I have always had something. I want to break up with my fiance not only because of that reason but also because we are so young and unprepared. The only attachment we have is a phone bill, I need help.
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reader, IHateWomanBeaters +, writes (19 September 2009):
 You will regret it for the rest of your life if you get married
Go be with the man you love. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2009): you should end it. 19 is to young plus you like someone else
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2009): I agree- do yourself a big favor and break off the engagement now! You're still way too young to be making this kind of commitment, especially when you're lukewarm about your fiance. And depending on which state you live in, divorce ain't that easy! You'll just setting yourself up for financial and emotional hardship should your marriage end.
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reader, thatgothgirl20 +, writes (25 August 2009):
 Then stop being engaged. I was once engaged too quickly myself. Please don't get into a sham marriage. Don't be another statistic. Think about your life.
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reader, the one who doesn't know  +, writes (25 August 2009):
 I don't think you have to be so drastic as to break up the engagement. First clear up your things with the other guy, see why only now is he interested, why not a long time ago. Humans (wanted to make it more general) can be very deceiving, so clear the path before you make the jump. If he's just into shallow water, than go back to the one who wants you. I'm not saying it's to young to be engaged, from where I come from it happens even at 16, but maybe the anonymous male reader is right...
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2009): Absolutely you are too young! Your marriage will not be strong if you ignore your true feelings for someone else.You need to spend a few years enjoying several partners to find the one that suits you best. The only way you'll know if its for real is to spend a lot of time together.Nineteen is too young to settle down with one mate. You should be playing the field (safely with condoms of course) to find the one who really gets you coming and going.
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reader, Sphronas +, writes (25 August 2009):
 Break off the engagement. It will hurt your fiancé but better to clear things up before you get married than continue with this charade and make life miserable for both of you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2009): What are you waiting for? File for disengagement straight away, but make sure you get joint custody for that phone bill...
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