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anonymous
writes:My boyfriend of five years is currently in another country to work on a company project. He will be away for two months. I am putting every effort possible to keep the communication between us however I somehow feel that he is not as enthusiastic as I am everytime we chat online. He's complaining about being tired and busy all the time. We tried Skype once but the connection is not as good so we revert back to instant messaging/chats. It has been a week now and there's not even a single phone call but he's always online so whenever I go online, we chat a few minutes before going to bed. He is always tired and needs to sleep early. Our chats is always about him and it made me feel like walking in a one way street which I guess should not be the case. This is the first time that he'll be away for a long time and I don't know if I can manage this long distance relationship with him if he's not putting an effort to make it work. I would ask him to turn on his webcam and he would but he would never ask to see me. Would this mean, he doesn't miss me at all? I asked him, he said sorry he's just tired. I am confused.Am I being selfish for acting this way? Please help me understand. Thanks!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe's been very busy since landing a new job a few months ago. I feel that he is slowly pulling away. I don't want to think that he is losing interest in the relationship. We had a few disagreements that I think is normal for any couple. I'm taking a step back and not demand too much of his time. I must admit I am more stable than he is in terms of career. I can tell he is struggling to become stable in his current job. I never wanted that to interfere with how we feel about eachother. I am very confused right now. I really want to make it work. I miss him but I don't know if he feels the same way so I'll just let him be and see if he'll somehow make an effort to reach out to me. If he doesn't, maybe I should just try to get over it as soon as I can...
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2009): Where is he working. Is it the sort of job where he sees it as work for two months then getting back to his normal life. If that is the case he may be just in work and sleep mode in which case he may find it hard to switch off.
Try and cool it your side for a bit. see how he responds. If he doesnt then sorry Hun but you may have a problem.
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