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writes:Okay.. im 20 years old and have just goten into my first relationship with a 24 year old guy, whom i love completely. The problem is that he goes soft when we having sex and he says its because i get too tight and it gets too 'painful' for him to continue sometimes... but is that possible??He is my first sexual partner and he is very thick in that department... bigger then a man should ever be to be honest. He can climax with me and this only sometimes happens but when it dose i cannot help but think that maybe its something to do with me.I know that i am tighter then usual as i have only gone on top once as the times we have tried before he just hasn’t fit. when we tried the last time he did fit and he climaxed but he said that was the first time that the pain override the pleasure but surly if it was that painful he wouldn’t be able to climax... he'd go soft then... right??And if he is able to climax with me on top even though it got so so so painful, why when he is on top he goes soft because it gets to 'painful'?it just doesn’t add up....any fed back would be greatly appreciatedp.s he says that the tip of his penis is very very sensitive which also plays a factor??
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reader, Nime  +, writes (19 September 2010):
 Are you guys engaging in any foreplay? Is your guy working at all to give you any pleasure before he tries to enter you? During arousal a woman's vagina will grow and lengthen to accommodate pretty much any sized penis. A man with a thicker (or longer) penis like your guy will have to work extra hard to get you aroused, well-lubricated, and accommodating to his size. It would be best if he could get you to orgasm during foreplay, before penetration, either through oral or manual stimulation. If you don't believe your vagina could ever manage his size, remember that the average size of a baby's head is between 32-37 cm: enough said. The question is whether you two are willing or have the energy to work towards becoming compatible during sex, every time you have sex...
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2010): It sounds like the size of his penis is too big for him to get proper motion and yes if it is too tight there, it can be painful and cause loss of erection.
Actually it does add up, different positions offer a different amount of tightness and different angles of insertion.
You have to try different positions and experiment with lube and other stuff.
Perhaps you're not relaxing your vagina muscles enough, see if you can get them to relax more. Vaginas are able to squeeze out babies and unless his penis is the size of a newborn then there should be a way and position that will enable him to fit comfortably.
A good way to get the muscles in the vagina to relax is through plenty of foreplay, lots and lots of it.
Just keep trying different things, it could be that you will always be limited to certain positions because of his girth. There's no use blaming anyone for this either, you can't help how tight you are only try and find positions that open you a bit more.
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