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writes:On friday night my boyfriend came round and we just stayed in. He had been working n his house all day and was tired so he went to bed early. I stayed up as I didnt want to go to bed that early.I had a couple of glasses of wine and spoke to some friends on messenger. my mum and dad came home with some friends so I sat talking to them for a while until they went to bed. I was still not tired and then my younger bro and his mates came back from the pub so I sat up talking to them for a while.It was getting late and a few glasses of wine later a few of them said they were going and my bro said he was going to bed. I dont remember how it happened but I stayed up talking to one of his friends. He was talking about his girlfriend and I was talking about my boyfriend. Just generally saying that they were boring etc for not wanting to go out and stuff. The conversation came about when I explained that my boyfriend had been in bed most of the night.He was flirty with me and me with him I supose. It was quite nice to get male attention really, that was it. Anyway, we must have sat talking for a while and I don't remember how but I woke up in my bed the next morning (on my own - dont worry!) with a text on my phone saying 'who was that lad you were asleep with on the setti?' off my boyfriend. I rang him as I coudn't remember a thing and asked hm what I ment. He said he had woken up at 7, saw that I wasn't in bed and came downstairs to find me. Me and this boy was asleep on the setti so we must have nodded off when we were talking to each other. We had both had a lot to drink and it was very late so we must have just fell asleep.Obviously to my boyfriend that looks much worse - i know it would to me but thats al it was. Nothing else happened but of course he is finding that hard to believe. I know I cant remember much but I would remember something else happening, surely. I think that the fact that I was fully clothed is the only thing that is reasuring my boyfriend that I didn't cheat on him but I'm not sure how to make him believe me 100%.What should I do? I feel awful as I have hurt him, but nothing happened.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2007): Sorry love but you didn't mention how the other guy was in your house in the first place If your bf knew he was there then he trusted you and you put that in jepeady If he didn't know then why was he Really there you need to be honest with yourself before anyone else gets hurt ! good Luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2007): Ooops...what exactly did your bf see when he walked into that room? That would make all the difference in the world, here. Were you and this guy on each end of the settee, passed out, snoring and sleeping off too much wine? Or were you, laying beside each other close and looking rather snuggly and intimate? If you were up close and cozy with this other guy-he has cause to be concerned. Because it means you can't handle your liquor and you allowed yourself to get into a questionable situation that's making him feel very, very unsure, uncomfortable with you. You did this while he was sleeping in a another room, under the same roof, Hun. So how is he going to trust you when he's not there. I suggest you have your bf talk to this other young man if he won't believe you, to confirm your story. Watch your wine intake from now on and no matter the circumstances, don't allow yourself to flirt simply because you want male attention! That's your bf's job. And if you feel you are lacking in attention..talk to your bf and work out your relationship issues. But you've told him your side, now it's up to him to believe what you said. The ball's in his court. Good luck and I hope it works out for you, dear.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2007): So you don't think I'm a bad person who has completely ruined my relationship? We have ben together 6 years and he means everything to me. I definately will not be drinking for a long time! Do you think I have ruined everything?
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reader, Rhi +, writes (21 January 2007):
 An nasty problem u hav here! First of all may I comment on how u must b careful on how much wine u r consuming! We don't want u ending up with alcohol related illnesses! Now about your boyfriend, u should start by making him a really nice meal and spend the whole evening together. If he wants to go to bed at a certain time, then go with him.
treat him but make it look as if u were just in the mood to do something nice for him instead of trying to get him to believev nothing happened. Obviously spend your time flirting with him and definitely no one else!
Try this and wish u all the luck in the world but don't forget things like this happen to most of us and i'm sure he'll forgive and forget!
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