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30-35,
*ikesOral
writes:I have been giving my girlfriend oral sex for a few days now. She likes it but she sais sometimes I hurt her, I was going as soft as possible too. She told me I went in too far with my toung. She is a virgin still.Ok so here is the questions: How can I avoid hurting her? and shouldn't going in farther with my toung feel better instead of hurting?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2010): Caress her thighs and tummy lightly then go down to her lips and clitoris. Make sure things are very wet. She must be able to relax. Take it slowly. Encourage her to tell you what she wants.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2010): For a few days?? Continuously? That is heroic but no wonder she's hurting.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2010): Actually, stimulation of the clitoris makes for the best oral sex :)
But since she's a virgin, she isn't used to things going up there and thus even little things will hurt the deeper they go in. Masturbation or other stuff might have prepared the more shallow areas so it won't hurt there, but the deeper tissue isn't used to being stimulated.
In all honesty, I as a woman find that clitoral stimulation is really the most pleasurable part of oral sex.. And the other areas being stimulated is just fluff. Also, most women can't even come unless you focus on the clit.
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reader, piccola  +, writes (2 June 2010):
the pleasure center of the female anatomy is the clitoris. and that is on the out side part of the pink bits (the vulva) not the inside part (the vagina). what i suggest is that you concentrate your energies on her clitoris (being gentle is good) and leave penetrating her with your tongue alone. lick that area, but hold back on sticking it in there. i suggest you have a loot at a map of the female genitals that points out the clitoris to you, so you can know what you are looking for.
the actual act of penetration is more about male pleasure than female pleasure. in fact, the further inside the vagina you go, the less nerves there are, so no. going in farther shouldn't feel better, she feels the most on the out side and around the entrance where there are more nerves!
enjoyment from penetration is a learned response, it isn't something that come straight away for all women, there are allot of excitable muscles in the entrance to the vagina that need to learn to relax and get used to new things being all up in there. you are probably pushing on muscles and tissues that aren't use to that kind of contact and are all tense.
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