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writes: Me and my fiancé had sex three times a day for 6 months straight (with no breaks)!! Eventually she wore me out and I needed a little break from it. A week later I haven’t even touched her in that time. When we going to bed my fiancé went bathroom brush her teeth. She came back in a sexy outfit. At the time I wasn't really in the mood when I say no she burst into tears say something me not finding her attractive anymore. Now she’s in a hotel and she told the front desk not let any guests in her room or to call it. What do I do ? I didn’t mean to upset her like this.
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reader, shazier  +, writes (11 January 2009):
 I think you need to sit her down and have a heart to heart chat. Make it clear, you not wanting to have sex as often as she does has nothing, to do with the way feel about her and, that you love her very much. Her pride maybe be hurt and she may feel that you have rejected her to at the moment.
Make her feel special, cuddle her and tell her, you love having sex with her, but her sex drive is much higher than yours. Make sure you let her know its not because, you dont want to have sex with her anymore.
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reader, Stayc63088  +, writes (1 January 2009):
 PS- Really try not to turn her down again when she goes out of her way to be sexy for you, even if you are really tired. She may never have the confidence to do it for you again. Most women are self-concious about their bodies. In fact a survey I read said 8 out of 10 women say their self esteem is determined mostly by their partner. So to get any kind of negative feedback is devastating. We just feel guys are always in the mood I guess and it hurts to be turned down. Saying you aren't in the mood- Maybe it's another one of those things wives are allowed to say but husbands cannot, like talking about weight.
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reader, Stayc63088 +, writes (1 January 2009):
I can only imagine how hurt her feelings are. We are always told how much guys love lingerie and dressing sexy and to do this and get turned down? I would be falling apart also. I don't know how you will contact her when she is refusing to take calls and visits but maybe call one of her friends? Or family? Somehow get in touch with her and explain that you think she is the most beautiful girl in the world to you. Just tell her that you are incapable of having sex so often, that you are so tired your body won't work even if you wanted it to. Tell her you really really want her to wear that outfit again and it's killing you to see her looking so good and not be able to do anything. Just reiterate how gorgeous she is to you and that you need a short break from sex all the time. She should understand. Only say what is true to you though. Good luck.
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reader, goodcharlotte4life +, writes (1 January 2009):
 well i think she needs to learn to respect your decsion on taking a break for a while, seriously she needs to grow up and relize not every guy thinks about sex ALL the time. and if she thinks you won't have sex with her because your not attracted to her anymore is childish, i mean she needs to relize you really love her and when i say love her i mean her, and not just her body. give her some time and hopefully she will come around and relize you only meant not to have sex for a short period of time and to just relax for a while.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 January 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI ment to 6 weeks not 6 months sorry for misunderstanding
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