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writes:(Figured out how to ask questions finally)Ok situation goes:I'm in a realtionship with a really great guy. Very work focused mind, but i understand him and why.But we posed a problem the other day, where i was telling him i loved him, and i asked him where my reply of the mutural feelings was/to tell me he loved me too.Ans he went on to say, why do i have to tell you about 20 times...So as you can imagine i was a little set back from this.I further told him i had a bit of a bad night, the previous, thinking too much that he didn't feel the same for me as i do for him.He grabbed me and made me look into his eyes and he told me he loved me.Then he was a little more attentive to me and told be a little more often, which was nicely reasuring.Then yesterday, i said i loved him on a text, hoping for a mutural reply. And nothing, he commented on the other stuff i said, but not that her loved me too.He really confuses me.And i know work is a distraction, but three words of reasurence now and again, isn't too much to ask for, is it?It could be because he's more of a face to face person, but it could be just to shut me up too.Ok all in all, do i:A. Lighten up and just enjoy the time with him that i have and don't take it all too heart, orB. Ask him for more reasurence?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2009): (k..i have an account but i cant post anything with it... Ive tried to reply to this a couple times.. Err. Imtaylor78). K. So lets see... My wife also likes to say i love you all the time... I dont neccesarily think it has anything to do with being insecure...sometimes your just around eachother and those are the words that come out of your mouth...do you think about it before you say it or does it just sneak on out of there........i used to get really annoyed by it to, like him.. But judt give it time and it will become an automatic responce for whenever you say it to him. Dont take this the wrong way. Im not saying ive just given and dont care any more. It just doesnt bother me anymore...and eventually that should happen to him...maybe till it gets to that point...try to pull it back alittle. Ease into the procsess
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2009): My husband tells me that he loves me whenever I tell him that I love him.
I mean is it so hard to say it? You wanted him to say it once the time that you asked him, and he was all do I have to say it twenty times?
I don't think that it's being "feminine" if you want to feel loved. You shouldn't be the one doing most of the reassuring.
Sounds like he is either being weird or playing games. I wonder about this guy. Why is it so hard to say it back after you say it?
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries +, writes (20 April 2009):
 aw hun we all get like that don't worry :)
lol u just want the best like
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reader, littletigle11 +, writes (20 April 2009):
littletigle11 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks.
I mean i know he loves me, and i know he's male, so i'm not expecting, as such, a great sentimental speech. Just i think i'm slighly insecure and the reasurence helps.
Sometimes the words of someone else just makes you see that you've got a good thing, and not to possbliy ruin it.
I'm too feminine for my own good, lol.
Thanks again.
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries +, writes (20 April 2009):
he obviously does love you hun.i wouldn#t keep wanting the reassurance as you will anger him and push him away.perhaps that's why he doesn't reply saying he loves you because he feels he doesn't need to keep telling you he probably just wants you to trust the fact that he does and he doesn't always need to say it as you should know by now.just try to worry about it he probably just want you to know he does love you but doesn't feel the need to constantly tell you because he'd show you in different way rather than always trying to reassure you.as you shouldn't really need to be reassured by this.Hope this helps hun.
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