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*avid121
writes:We have only been together for three months and she has gone to Australia for a month, I have said to her that I think we should have a break till she gets back because I don't know her well enough yet and vica versa that way she can do what she likes and so can I without the other one worrying. She's now the other side of the world and can't get to grips with me being unhappy, I've said to her that I don't want to speak to her because I don't want to seem moody and upset her, but she's getting upset if I don't talk to her. The problem is, I'm tearing myself apart I can't talk to her without upsetting her and I can't not talk to her without upsetting her. One thing is certain though, I'm not happy, not in the way she is (very happy to be in Oz) I just want to be left alone to get on with my life. Its like she wants her cake and to eat it.I'm just worried that there is too much damage done, on my side and on hers.
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reader, David121 +, writes (17 March 2011):
David121 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSorry I should clarify, we do have an intense relationship and haven't had a day where we've not spoken in our entire relationship.
My problem isn't that she's gone, its that I can't just back away. I'd like to just chill, forget she's gone, have a few beers work on my motorbike and leave it there. I'd Speak to her when she gets back with a few texts inbetween because I know I don't like distances inbetween people.
My problem is that I'm damned if I do and damned if I don't.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2011): You seem a little intense about this. You have only been together 3 months. She's away for 1 month. You don't seem to be handling this holiday of hers very well. If I was her, I would find it a bit strange that you are making such an issue of it. Let her have her holiday, relax and don't stress - then when she gets back you carry on as before. Although I can see that she might be a bit annoyed that you are, at a distance, sabotaging her holiday with emotional issues.
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