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writes:Ok. So my situation is complicated. My girlfriend I've been dating for about a month now broke up with me because we lived so far away, went to different schools, and barely got to be together. Well we still both have feelings for each other, and we said that if somehow things change for the better, then we would get back together. Well it's been a couple weeks. A girl I'm great friends with is crushing on me. She hasn't told me that herself but it's obvious and one of her friends confirmed it. She's a fun girl, she's talented, funny, and she's pretty and we get along well. I just don't know for sure or not If she's my type. If you understand. On top of this, I have started to like a girl who goes t to my school. Idk if she likes me back but I'm thinking bout asking her out. I just don't know if it's too soon? And I don't want my friend who likes me to get mad at me. Or my ex, cuz we still talk and are on good terms. Idk what to do. I need advice please. Should I wait on my ex, go with my frien who likes me, or go after this new girl I really like??? Help!
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reader, PandaKID +, writes (2 October 2010):
PandaKID is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the advice. I was almost thinking along those lines anyways. I guess I just needed to hear someone else say it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 October 2010): Long distance relationships are hard because of temptation, communication, and trust. Therefore, are risky and should be avoided.
That leaves two choices: If youre not physically attracted to this girl, but like her mind, do not pursue her for a relationship. You need to be physically attracted for that to work out but you can still be friends.
This new girl: ask her out. Its never too soon. If you feel the time is right, do it. I didnt and it bit me in the ass. Take the initiative to ask out...itll help your confidence even if she says no. Why? cause its a learning experience and when you learn you can only gain. Hope this helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 October 2010): i think you should talk to your ex if there is any chance of getting back together if not. talk it out, long distance relationships are hard.
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reader, C. Grant  +, writes (2 October 2010):
 Let's start with your ex. You guys broke up for a valid reason. As long as distance is in the way, things aren't likely to work out. And she broke up with you. Waiting for her doesn't sound all that sensible, does it? You should consider yourself free to go out with others.
As for other girls, going out with someone only because you're afraid to hurt her feelings by going with someone else isn't fair to either of you. Go out with someone because *you want* to be with them. If that's the one that's crushing on you, great. If the other one, then fine. And if you feel it's too soon after the break-up to go with anyone, that's fine too.
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