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writes: A couple of nights ago, me and my girlfriend were having a real big fight, and she suggested a 'break-esque' thing, some time apart, and I thought she meant we were breaking up, so I went to a bar and got really drunk... and all I remember is waking up next to some pretty redhead. My friends encouraged me not to tell her, but I think I should... or she might find out from somebody else. Should I tell her?
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reader, pepe lapew +, writes (25 April 2005):
Head for a check up first...who knows who and what youwere with...do it quickly!
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (24 April 2005):
 I think you should... but only if you see yourself getting back together with her. If it's over, you don't have to mention it.However, if you want this relationship to continue, you should tell her, first, because it will clear your conscience (and you wouldn't be posting your query here if you didn't have at least a slightly-guilty one), but second because you're right: she will hear it from elsewhere eventually.Remembering that she was the one who suggested "time apart", you did what you might have done had she truly broken up with you. So you didn't exactly cheat on her. I'm not saying that I support your decision to get so horrendously drunk that you ended up sleeping with a stranger - Do you even remember the sex? How pointless was that? - but your girlfriend pretty much gave you licence to see other women when she suggested a "break". When/if you do tell her, be sure that you tell her how distraught and angry you were about what you perceived as her breaking up with you permanently. It will help soften the blow. However, I'm pretty sure that she would have expected you to go out and find someone else anyway, so it won't come as a complete shock to her.Hope this is some help.
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